Tired of being the only one who tries to maintain a friendship

rubydissolution started a blog post Tired of being the only one who tries to maintain a friendship
November 6, 2013, 12:40 AM
Tired of being the only one who tries to maintain a friendship

So, I think we all have those friends that we don't talk to for a while, and then you get together and it's like no time has passed. I love my friends and I have come to accept those types of friends because those are the ones you hold on to. Lately I've been having issues with a particular friend that up until last year we were tight and hung out all the time.

Up until last year my bff Alex and I were in regular communication. We have been friends for around 7 years now. We texted and we called each other all the time. Then he started hanging out with a new group of friends and dropped off the face of the earth. I've texted him, I've called him, and he's always too busy. I understand being busy with work or school, but a lot of the time he just doesn't give a damn. I have to text him to even get a response. Those responses are short with barely any real content. My calls go straight to voice mail. It's really starting to piss me off.

When we did hang out, it had been 6 months and he could only stay for 2 hours because he had to go to one of his new friends birthday party. Meanwhile, I had my dirty 30 in June and he couldn't bother to show up. His sisters engagement party was the same night, but my party was a little later in the evening. My bff from high school showed up and she was doing flowers for a wedding that weekend and lives an hour away. He could have made time if it meant anything to him. I can obviously see where our friendship stands.

I don't even know why I'm trying at this point. I mean I know he's anti-social. But I made it clear to him if he wants to stay friends he needs to make an effort. He isn't, nothing has changed since I sent him that text. It's such BS! I'm also not the only friend he's brushing off. One of my friends husbands was friends with him, and he is brushing him off too to hang out with his new friends. I want to say when they go away I'll still be here, but its getting to the point where I won't be. I'm just frustrated and sad about this whole situation. I miss my friend, but not if he's gonna be a douche.
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  Ahava commented
  
  November 6, 2013, 06:06 AM
  
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  I really know how it is. There is one partical best friend in my life, with whom it's been like that lately.
  If she is in a bad situation I drop everything to support her, but somehow it just seems that I'm not a priority to her.
  I'm letting it be..I'm not cutting ties or anything just laying low and seeing what happens.
  I don't believe in taking care of the friendship over Facebook if you live close by.
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  Kiyama commented
  
  November 6, 2013, 10:53 AM
  
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  I can totally relate. I had the same experience with a friend I used to be super close to for about a year and then she met her boyfriend and she almost disappeared out of my life. I used to be really angry at her but she's come round and now we see each other maybe once a month. It's never going to be the same again but sometimes you have to accept what is and that some people walk with you closely for a while but then go on a different path. If your friend doesn't care at all anymore you should let him go , as hard as it must be right now *hugs*
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  rubydissolution commented
  
  November 6, 2013, 11:03 AM
  
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  I actually texted him and cursed him out last night. He apologized and claimed he hasn't been avoiding me intentionally. He also said he has recieved similar bitch out texts from some of his other friends. He's just being uber antisocial right now. So I guess only time will tell where things go from here.
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