One of my closest friends is pregnant. I love her, but I never thought her behavior during this time would bother me so much.
She is not longer just Tanya. She is now "Tanya and Sarita" for every freaking thing! I can't stand her daily FB posts anymore:
"Sarita feels like dancing today", "Sarita wants chocolate", "aunt Marce, when are you going to visit Sarita" -whom btw is not born yet, when greeting her (tanya) and not saying anything to the belly she goes like "why are you ignoring Sarita?... wth, seriously?
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this baby talking is so annoying! Like do you really want your child to talk like that? omitting letters in words? Ugh!Another thing that bothered me was the baby shower. I know nothing about pregnancy, really nothing! I heard of baby showers before and had been to a few. Until then I knew baby showers were organized by friends, not by the mom to be. Please correct me if I am wrong.
Weeks ago I got a fancy baby shower invitation *roll eyes* from yes, "Sarita". Tanya organized her baby shower herself, she didn't want us -her friends- to do it because she wanted to be the one asking for the stuff she needed. Hmm what? I thought once you decide to have a baby is because you know you can afford having one without having to ask your friends for help to buy the baby's stuff. If your friends want to give you something then it's cool, but you asking? I don't know, that doesn't sound right to me.... And you had to see the baby shower decoration, food and all stuff there. Why didn't you use that money to buy the things for your baby? I still don't get it.
At the baby shower, my group of friends from high school and I, decided to go out on Friday the 23rd -tonight-. I am leaving to Germany in 10 days, so this will be like my farewell and a way to hang out like in the old times.
Tanya didn't hear us talking about this but at the end of the baby shower she said that from that day on she will stay at her house. She had also made comments before about how your life "has to" change when you are pregnant.
I respected that and now I am in trouble! I sent a private group message on FB to the ones I will go out with tonight, but I didn't include her. Not because I have something against her, but because of her comments. Plus I planned on visiting her at her house next week to say goodbye.
Turns out another friend added her to the conversation and she is now pissed because I didn't include her. She then said she and Sarita will be there tonight and that Sarita -of course- will dance. Oh God!
I have looked forward to this meet up, so I hope this incident doesn't affect my mood. All I want is to enjoy the time with my friends, dance and have fun.
ETA: She ended up not going! I got the feeling that something like that was going to happen. In fact, all the drama she made was just to make me feel horrible for not including her. Deep down I knew she was not joining us.
EVERY single person there, said they didn't think it was bad that I didn't include her. None of them were expecting her to come anyways.
Thanks girls for commenting. I don't feel like such a bad person anymore for getting such feelings towards a close friend and her behavior during her pregnancy.
Zephii, I laughed out loud when I read your comment
I know it's sort of mean, but man that was hilarious. We had a really great time. Lot's of laughs, dancing, stories and booze. The only bad thing is my throat hurts today
. The music was too loud and I had to made a great effort with my voice while talking. P.s: I'm so happy because the bf's and I countdown reached the single digits today. Just 9 days until we close the distance!!
Two pictures from last night. Crappy quality because they were made with a friend's phone under poor light conditions
And yay, only 9 more days!!!