I had a pow wow with my fiance the other night and I am trying to get over it, but I feel like I won't if I don't get it off my chest.
This is a post about my gaming community and you don't need to read it if you are not interested :P

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There is this girl in my community and I just don't like her. From the very first time I met her, there was something about her that I just didn't like at all. Maybe it was how cocky she was, maybe it was something else, but I just did not liker her one bit.

Then she started to pick on a very good friend of mine. She would correct his English on the forums openly for everyone to see and always disagree with every single thing he said. He was a sweetheart and did not deserve that treatment, nor did he have the ability to voice his opinion in a manner that would neither insult her nor make him look bad. His English was limited, but he always tried hard to get better. That was one thing I could not let happen.

When she decided to go ahead and unmute someone because she didn't care to ask for the REAL reason he was muted, she played the "I am a higher ranked person"-card on him and got one of her friends, a community owner, to side with her. I hated that too.

I got the position of the Community Event Coordinator. This position gave me the ability to be able to see more and more of the forums, be involved in more and more games and I felt that she didn't like it. She probably thought I was a new person and have risen in rank much faster than I should have, when in reality I was on a forced break and been with the community for 4 years, even an owner at one point.

At this point, drama ensued. There was this huge fight over nothing and a lot of people left, taking a lot of our admins with them, trying to destroy a part of our community. She was absolutely devastated, because she thought the main instigator was her friend, when in reality he thought she was a c-word [now she makes sure she tells everyone she doesn't like that she hates them and doesn't "understand" why they get so upset, when she is just speaking the truth]. From what I heard, she cried to that one friend of hers and he made her a Community Adviser, without even asking any other owners if that was fine. That rank had been discontinued since the last one did a horrible job and it was decided not to reassign it, yet he did. When I heard this, I did not like this either, but I applied at the same time, because I had a similar position before I left and figured I could help out.

I was accepted and she was not happy. I get it and I was not happy with her either, but I tried to make it work. We butted heads all the time, but together we got things done. Then I got my PCO diagnose and needed a break. I fell into a deep depression and requested a vacation time. She saw her chance and tried to make the owners ban a girl because she had been dating within the community, not one guy, but two and I called bullshit, because no one else did. This was so heartbreaking for her that she took a vacation, while I was still dwelling on my depression. I know I should not be mad at her for this, because I never said what was really going on, just that I needed time off, but it was extremely unprofessional of her to leave while the only other person at her rank is on vacation as well.

The next time we butted heads she resigned, blaming me for it. She came back the next day, got her rank back and we tried to figure things out again. By this time, I was already so frustrated with her that I took whatever she did as an attack and was insulted. She left again at our next disagreement. Came back as member, dropped out all together and a couple weeks later came back. At this point, the owners were not happy with her anymore. They thought she was too flip-flopity (or however that is spelled, I swearI heard it in an ERB!) and didn't want to give her anything more than a simple member status.

Which brings us to now. She requested to have a custom rank made for her, that would allow her to only do the things she liked about being a CA and leave out the things she didn't like. The owners told me that this would not fly and they would never do this, however, yesterday she got all the powers that she wanted, but not the "title". I am being told this is a "compromise" and that they have to take into consideration that she is depressed. OK. I get it, she is depressed, you want her to feel important and a part of the community and that is great, really (no sarcasm here!), but don't tell me that I would get the same treatment if I asked for it, because I know better than to ask for special treatment.

Now I am trying to leave this all behind me and just do my job, but whenever I see her again being a blunt asshole, I just can't take it. I know if I say something, people will think I am picking on her, and she makes sure people think that way about me, but if I don't say anything people get mistreated and I don't want that either. I am stuck in limbo while she gets whatever she wants and this is just so awful to me. Double standards are really a big pet peeve of mine.

She also likes to twist my words, which I hate aswell. I said, "If you don't like someone, that is fine. We are all human and we don't have to like each other, but there is really no reason to tell them." and she replied with "I don't want to pretend I am their friend when I hate them." I don't do that and I really don't want people to think that! I don't like a couple people, but I work with them in this community, because they are a part of it! This is what professionalism is <~ if that is a word haha

*sigh*
I suppose all I am trying to say is, I am not a bully and I am not out to get her and it really upset me when an owner told my fiance that he doesn't understand why we two just can't get along.

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Rant over. Let's try to look at her with fresh eyes and see what her potential is!