My sister and I have never been close, throughout high school whenever I wanted to do something with her she was always too busy with her boyfriends. I have always tried to talk to her and see how she is doing, opening up to things that are going on with me in hopes that she'd follow.
I've been back home for almost a month now and we hardly talk, most of the time when I attempt to I only get snappy crabby replies. I'm done trying with her, it gets no where. I am away and always message her to see how she is doing but she never tells my mom about that, she only tells my mom about all the horrible advice I try to give her that is unsolicited (She just broke up with her bf and is going through what I did three years ago)

Today my grandma was readmitted into the hospital, my mom is on edge and decides that she needs to address our relationship. Saying that we need to get along and blady blah. I end up telling my sister how I feel neglected to her and can't ever have civil conversations with her. I broke down and then my mom started hounding me about how I am so critical and starts saying things that I talked to her in private about. (my sister wants to get a massive tattoo on her side, and I grimaced and probably said something like eww) I don't know why she thought she had to bring that up, it certainly isn't going to help the situation. I'm not ever critical directly towards my sister.

Ugh I am so... I don't even know right now. I wish I could just trade her in for a new model, and have one of those sisters you hear about who is their best friend and is awesome and amazing. I don't get the feeling she is going to try any harder and I don't know if I am ready to keep trying.....not a good outlook but I don't know.