Hi people of LFAD forum! If you are new here (especially if you joined within the past 4-5 months), then you likely do not recognize me or know me, so you probably won't be interested in this blog post so you can go and find something else to read unless you are just that bored.. in which case, I won't stop you. (I can't really..) But yeah background information. I used to be in a long distance relationship with a guy from the UK, it lasted a bit over 4 years.

I've been lurking around lately, but not posted in ages. There's a good reason for this as you may have noticed by the changes in my profile. My ldr relationship ended. It was terribly sad, I was heartbroken and emotional and went through some depressed and even angry/frustrated/resentful periods of time. It made it worse that my ex had formed a relationship with the girl he developed feelings for before the breakup (only a month after we broke up, which seemed way too fast to me even though he felt like it was slow.. lol). But anyway, I didn't want to post right away cause I was in no clear reasonable state to post and was really upset... and then when I started feeling better, I just didn't couldn't bring myself to post.. but changed my profile in case people were curious.

Eventually when I got to one of my lowest points of feeling sad and depressed, I decided I would go online and look for guys near me/same city/province. Cause I was not looking to start another long distance relationship (the guy would have to be very special and I have to meet him first and make sure we have a good connection and then the distance must have a reasonable ending date or something lol.. ).. and it helped... because I was able to see there were other guys near me, and some of them even seemed nice.. and I talked to a few, met up with a few.. but something was always not quite right about them, they weren't the right guys for me to form a relationship with or start dating, though I got some new friends... After awhile, I got a bit tired of the online dating site, but I still occasionally went on, fiddled with my profile, browsed through some "possible matches".. maybe talked to some guys... and then...one day... almost 4 weeks ago now, I got a message from a new guy on there.. and checked out his profile, the usual and decided to message him back.. then we got to texting and we found out we had a lot in common and he was so sweet and romantic.. and he is from my city.. and then we arranged to meet up the first time.. and it went really well.. and since then we have hung out a few more times, and texting in between.. and it's just feels really good. Though still new, but it seems promising...

Although then I come on here and lurk and feel slightly guilty dating someone who lives so close to me. lol! but really I still wish you all the best and if my recent behaviour is any indication I will likely keep coming back to lurk and read what you all are up to. I feel a bit guilty for any advice I gave out.. but my long distance relationship did last a bit over 4 years and I don't think it was wholly bad advice just that the relationship wasn't meant to be. Because it isn't always meant to be. Good luck to all of you, you guys are amazing and don't worry, cause as many people on this site have shown, the distance is totally conquerable, it just takes the right relationship and circumstances to make it so! Good luck to you all!!