So I officially start my first full-time career next Monday. I've been down on my luck and stagnant for so long I really just can't wait to feel useful and productive again. However, the schedule that I will be on makes it extremely hard for my SO and I to talk / skype as much as we do now. I will be working from 8am-4:30pm Monday through Friday. My SO works from 5pm to anywhere from 9pm to midnight depending on the busyness of the day. So, in reality, we only have weekends to catch up.
I have very mixed feelings about this change because we sometimes get into arguments about how most of his time is either dedicated to me, or work so he gets little time for himself. This was somewhat by choice because he says he feels bad leaving me because I don't have friends that live in the area to hang out with anymore - so if i'm not with him then I am alone. Even when i'm perfectly fine with it, he still feels bad for leaving. Upon receiving my schedule I said to him, "well now you get all the time to do what you want." He probably didn't like that much, but the bottom line is that we are now somewhat reversing roles. I used to be the one waiting for him to get home, the one who was alone all the time, but now it's both of us. I hate to admit that part of me likes this so he can see that it's not easy being the lonely one with nothing to do, maybe this can bring a greater level of understanding with why I was so needy. I can learn from it too being the one who is working but wishes I was home talking to him. Nevertheless, I know that i'll miss his company a lot. All I can say is that i'm very happy that we were able to visit last month before I get super busy.
I'm actually hoping that I can mentally handle this transition well because this is going to nearly be a complete change in my life from what it has been for over a year. I'm going from doing nothing to working full-time, always skyping my SO to only skyping a couple days a week, and now having more financial responsibility. When I got the first call from the job, I was super happy. But after the second call saying that I was an official employee.. I definitely felt a degree of sadness. I don't want this to change the dynamic of my relationship too much. If it makes us fight less i'd be happy though lol. :S
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I'm going to be honest, it's been over a year since mine and my SO's schedules got messed up because of his new career. I'm still not used to it. Sometimes I feel like I don't even have a boyfriend anymore because of how rarely we talk. Even on his days off we don't talk much, because he wants some time to himself. A lot of the time, I get jealous/mad and feel neglected/ignored because of this so then I get really snippy and bitchy to him. Sometimes I feel bad, but sometimes I just feel like it'd be nice if he made more of an effort.
I think if you both put in the effort to keep it up, you'll be fine. Like today, it's my SO's last day off (just today and yesterday) and surprisingly he initiated our conversation, even though I'm at work. Most of the time he doesn't do that.
If you keep busy with work, you probably won't think about it so much. At first, it's going to be hard, but after a little while, it gets a bit easier. Still hard, but not as bad. Sometimes I get so busy here, I don't even notice we haven't talked.
Also, what is your new career, if you don't mind me asking??
I've gotten a job as a claims associate trainee for an insurance company. It's no where near what I originally wanted to do but the things that i've wanted to do with my life have changed so many times throughout college it's actually kind of comical. It's a great start, I have benefits and all that good stuff and the company has a great reputation with their treatment of the employees so i'm going to make the best of it.