My SO also was recently hired and is starting his new job tomorrow. Communication between us has been poor lately and it is on his end. I think it's been 2 weeks or more since we've spoken on the phone; I've called twice and he never picked up or called back. I still email him M-F but get no responses. He reached out to me on Couple (app) one day because in one of my emails I shared that I'm excited about Valentine's Day; he was asking me why I was excited.
A VERY long time ago, when I was going through my own issues, it was I who would have trouble communicating with him. I try to remember that but I guess it's hard. I already don't see him and with my new schedule (grad school and part time job) I don't have a lot of availability to talk so planning talk time is important, which I've mentioned numerous times. In one recent email, I suggested that during my 30 minute commutes between home and school or home and work that we could talk on the phone. I haven't heard anything regarding that.
I'm trying to be patient, but I guess for an anxious person like me it's hard to not constantly wonder how long it'll be like this and when things will get better. I already have no idea when the next time we can visit would be or what that would even look like. These days I honestly just feel like giving up.
Anyway, this year I'll still be celebrating Valentine's Day- just as my own valentine, I guess. Besides him asking me why I'm excited, it wasn't discussed. I'm a holiday person, so the show must go on!
There's always time to send a text or an e-mail, me and my SO used to talk when I was on my way to work in the mornings, and on lunch break etc. It sounds like he needs to start putting a bit of effort in. Hope yu have a nice Valentine's Day regardless xx