My SO and I had our first serious talk about moving one day. I am more established where I am meaning I could support her being here until she gets everything worked out a lot more than she could for me if I move there. On the other hand she is a lot more family oriented and has more concerns about moving. I think in the end I will be the one who has to make the move. But we are still a long way from being to that point so many things could change.
Although I keep have issues internally about everything that's going in my life, there are other people going through more here and there are quite a few people with good reason to celebrate too and it all just makes my problems seem much less significant. I kind of feel like writing just isn't enough right now. At least not as much writing as I have been doing on these blogs. I think I am finding it better to focus most of my energy on trying to help and support others right now through the terrible and non-sensical (that's a word now, non-sense-ical its non-sense and whimsical) advice I give. I can attempt to relate my problems fears and hopes through other peoples and try to help and that feels better for now. Although I will have to learn to become faster, every time I get to a thread 10 people have already posted advice 20 times better than I could give and I'm all like geez guys and gals couldn't you have let me put my non-sensical (word of the day now) advice in there first before you make me feel completely worthless. Just kidding!!
Thanks for reading. If you are in an LDR I wish you much strength, wisdom and luck!
I remember awhile back when I very first brought it up to she didn't want to even think or talk about it at all. I just wanted to get her thinking about it because it is a big decision. Honestly, I think I always imagined it being her that moved here which I think would still be easier as far as financially and for security. But, I am okay with moving especially for us. I just need to find something better to do for work in the meantime. Either way it works out having money saved is never bad. But I think there is still plenty of time to work it all out. I just need to try harder now more than ever.
I guess both our lives are kind of messy right now. I realize that both of us getting to a better place should be the priority right now. For me it's still easier I think. I just need to get a better job and start cutting back where ever I can. For her, I think it may take more time and work. But I know we both want to be together and so I know we will both do the best we can and there is still much time.
Thank you for the advice! I really got me thinking about what is important.