I know our relationship is still very young but SO and I had out 3 month anniversary yesterday and today (because she is a day ahead). We spent it arguing. Its been non-stop arguing since the being of the month. We have always made up and say sorry though eventually. I have always said communication is important and that the most important thing was that we talked our problems out after arguments like rational adults. I always say never go to sleep angry with each other and I keep saying we are going to keep having arguments until we talk it out to a solution. I thought we were making progress. But when we get to trying to find a solution she either just assumes all the blame or just suddenly doesn't want to talk about it anymore. I keep saying its not about blame and it doesn't matter whose fault it is but most important to find a solution to the problem but it seems like no matter what I try to do or say we just keep ending up in an argument. A couple nights ago she was literally yelling at me (CAPS LOCK) and last night she just flat out refused to talk to me about what was wrong with her being upset "I don't have to tell things". She purposefully pushed me to the point of being mad at her....i have never been mad at her before...i hate this. Then I told her I was sorry and she just said "I love you" and went to sleep. Today I have been just doing anything I can to just keep the peace. I don't know if I can argue with her again. I'm so hurt and I feel I cant even talk to her about it because its just going to end in an argument with no solution still. We haven't even been really talking much today. Today has just been so rough. I don't know what to do. I still love her so much but things are starting to feel different and I am so scared. Right now I would really just like 1 day without an argument at least then I know its getting better. Maybe that will be today because we just aren't talking much.
There is no information to base advice off, I know that, I don't really expect any. I just had to get it out somehow, sorry. Its still not enough...----------UPDATE-----------
Well. I was in quite rough shape during all this and I feel kind of embarrassed about it now. Anyway, even though we both agree now that we both made mistakes she finally told me the real reason she is so upset now, I had forgot about something important during all this and I do realize it is mostly my fault. Not sure really how or forgot or maybe its really more I didn't realize what exactly was happening. We still talk now but, she is still trying to figure out her feelings. I am at peace with whatever happens now. I think there is still hope so maybe she will realize she still feels the same about me and I try to be better, smarter and stronger next time which I think I can as I have been since the beginning. I don't think it will come to the worse thing. She still wants me around and says she just needs some time (Hey i think someone in the comment section called that one
) so that is what I am doing. We just talk as people would now mostly, every once and awhile she sends a kiss my way or something and I respond back in kind. I am happy to give her all the time she needs. I am happy for any more time I get with her.
