My SO is too complacent and its bugging the ever-loving shit out of me. He isn't saving any money, but he doesn't want to find a better paying job. Every time I try and talk to him about it, he gets defensive and upset, because he's frustrated that I'm not there to comfort him through this. Sometimes I feel like telling him to man the fuck up and just do it. I've been working for almost 4 months and I've saved almost 3k. He has something like 500 dollars, he never wants to talk to me about it so I really don't know.

Pardon my language in this whole rant, but it fucking does my head in. He proposed that I visit him and stay there for 6 months and live off my savings. That will last me, what, a month? And then who will support us? Certainly not him. And not me because I would be unable to work. I'm just sick of him living in his dreamland. I need someone in touch with reality and he's so far from it. I keep telling him he's so talented and can do so much, but his talents are going to waste. He never strives for the best. It's laziness/fear on his part but I need him to seriously step it up because I am at my wits end.

I feel like lately I've been sounding like a broken record, constantly repeating myself. Sorry. I don't know what to do. I don't really want to break up but I don't want this anymore if he isn't going to make any changes.