Originally posted by brazil
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Well, my mom is completely pushy when her wishes or what she thinks "is best for me" is at risk. She emotionally blackmails anyone close to her that mildly cares. She's always been like this and I've mostly given in. Now this situation I've put myself in is the most difficult one I've had to overcome ever. Not only do I have to travel without her, but I have to travel without her to ANOTHER COUNTRY. I've never been out of my country, and without anyone's support, it's extra hard for me, because my personality is completely passive.
When I was a child, I was always supported by her, and since I've started growing up, things got a lot more difficult, because I want more than what my mom would think was best (or would allow me to have) for me.
Now, I understand her, I'm the only child of 5 pregnancies she had and I know she doesn't want me to hurt myself. But I don't understand how it is that what hurts me most is herself. I never told this to her, because I care for her and I'm never in the mood to "hear it".
Anyway, it's impossible to give a full view of what my mom and I's relationship is and has been for all my life and I reckon this is no place for this, but I would just like to let people know how vicious the situation can be. This is one of the main reasons why it's been almost 3 years and me and my partner haven't met.
Oh, right. My partner knows everything about it (well, she knows my side, for all I care) and she's supportive BUT she says I have to be the first one to go over. So, as usual, I give in. I have a better $ituation than she currently has, but not the emotional. So we just have to work with that and may God act upon my visa interview and the decisions I take for my trip, that may be the last time i have a healthy relationship with my family.
When I was a child, I was always supported by her, and since I've started growing up, things got a lot more difficult, because I want more than what my mom would think was best (or would allow me to have) for me.
Now, I understand her, I'm the only child of 5 pregnancies she had and I know she doesn't want me to hurt myself. But I don't understand how it is that what hurts me most is herself. I never told this to her, because I care for her and I'm never in the mood to "hear it".
Anyway, it's impossible to give a full view of what my mom and I's relationship is and has been for all my life and I reckon this is no place for this, but I would just like to let people know how vicious the situation can be. This is one of the main reasons why it's been almost 3 years and me and my partner haven't met.
Oh, right. My partner knows everything about it (well, she knows my side, for all I care) and she's supportive BUT she says I have to be the first one to go over. So, as usual, I give in. I have a better $ituation than she currently has, but not the emotional. So we just have to work with that and may God act upon my visa interview and the decisions I take for my trip, that may be the last time i have a healthy relationship with my family.