I need some help please.
My gf and I became a couple officially on April 2012. We met each other on Feb 2012. We were office mates. I was a border in their house because their house was near our office. I lived in their house from March to December 2012 until we resigned from work because she received her immigrant Canadian visa. She was petitioned by her aunt since 2007 and it was just approved on latter part of December 2012. She left for Canada on latter part of January 2013.
Our relationship was doing great When she was still here in the Philippines. We love each other so much and she said that I was the only one that made her feel so much loved. She did have some past relationships. Her last relationship was a 5-year relationship which ended around January 2013 because the guy took her granted and their relationship faded.
Since we lived on the same roof, we go to work at the same time. We eat together after office hours.
I have a great relationship with her family. My gf and I went to a lot of dates, and few out of town trips. Before we became a couple, I ended my 9-year relationship with my first GF because my love for her faded away.
My second GF is so emotional and sensitive. But I accept her for what she are. I love her despite of that.
She is the eldest sibling. She grew up in a poor family. When she was still a kid, she helped her family sell food in their small eatery and in side streets. She was a working student since 1st year in college. She was raised by her strict parents who became hard on her. Because of that, my GF became strong and firm.
When she was still here, we had few fights which started in small arguments like when I said something and she did not like it, we will feel pissed and the small fights would being. There was a time when due to my anger, I walked out. She also walked out when we were on a date. But we were able to resolve those things. We cried and forgave each other for what happened.
She went to Canada on January 2013 as an immigrant and left her own family here in the Philippines. Her aunt in Canada filed a petition in 2005 and just got approved on December 2012. She stayed in her aunt's house in Canada. Our mode of communication is thru chatting in facebook even if I am at work and we had webchat thru skype sometimes during the weekend. We cannot do webchat every weekend because we always lose our home internet connection every weekend because the overhead fiber optic cables are being stolen literally in our area every week.
My GF and I do chat in facebook everyday. There are times that there are arguments due to some small and big things. I noticed that almost every month before our month anniversary we had quarrels. One thing that we argue is she says that I don't have enough time for her, even though we do chat everyday even when I am at the office (Morning in Manila, Evening in Canada), it is still not enough for her. Sometimes I get guilty because my boss just sits behind my table and he can see that I am using facebook while at work.
She wants that my full attention is with her. Even if I do multi-tasking at work, she feels sad if I will telling her that I need to finish something at work and I cannot chat with her for the mean time. I also notice that everytime we have arguments, she always resort to breaking up with me and she brings up past issues that we fought before, even if I already forget those issues and considered already done with me.
There was a time that I told her that I am already tired, not in our relationship, but because of her usual resort of breaking up with me and bringing up of past issues everytime we have an argument.
One of the things that we fought before was she told me that we should end our relationship and I should just focus first with my family problems. I felt hurt about it because for me I can manage to face those problems while I am in a relationship. During this argument, we are using our native language of Filipino then she suddenly spoke these words in English. Because of that I felt hurt and I told her that she is arrogant. She felt hurt about it but we were able to fix it and forgave each other.
Another thing that we argued was about religion. We were bought Catholic but she told me she wanted to become a Born Again Christian because she already had some doubts with Catholicism and she felt that she is closer to god by being a Christian. At first I disagreed to it because it entails that we will be going to two separate churches. After some arguments, I agreed to that.
One major argument that we had was when I told her that she should also have some time for herself and she should have some hobbies so that she wont feel very lonely in Canada and during times that we cannot do chat because of our busy schedule. I also said that she should also keep some love for herself and don't pour out all of herself to me. I told that to her because that is what I listened to the homily of the priest during my friend's wedding. The priest said that couple are still two separate individuals that have separate lives from each other, that the only things that can bring them together as a couple are understanding, love and respect.
She perceived that differently and felt so bad. I do not have any intention that we should not be communicating anymore. She said that for her, she does not want to give her attention to any other things except for me. She told me she does not want to have any other hobbies because she just wants to give her full attention to me. We were able to fix this argument.
Her birthday was on August 12. Three weeks before her birthday, I was already thinking of the gift that I will give to her so she will be surprised on her birthday. I bought a backpack because she told me she will moving to an apartment because her aunt treated her negatively and asked to pay her all the expenses her aunt incurred for her to petitioned to Canada. It looked like that her aunt did all that so tha she will look "kind" to their other relatives here in the Philippines.
I also went to my GF's house here in the Philippines to talk to her mother. I asked her mother if she wants to send some of my GF's things to her. Her mother gave me some of her sandals and marathon clothes because my girlfriend is a runner. I also met her girl bestfriend to get her gift for her. I told them that these gifts will be a surprise package for her.
I sent the package via DHL on Aug 4th and it reached the airport on Aug 6th but got stuck in the customs because I was told by DHL customer service that the items need to be cleared by the consignee. This was not told to be by the DHL store representative who I talked to and processed the package. August 12 came and she was not able to receive the package that should have been a surprise to her to make happy. More about this package later.
During the week before her birthday, I told my GF that I want to watch the concert of Linkin Park on Aug 13th (Aug 12th in Canada). At frist she disagreed because she said it is her birthday. I told her that Linkin Park is my favorite foreign rock band of all time and it has been my favorite since high school. I told that we can celebrate her birthday before the day itself. As an alternative, I thought of making a video composed of our pictures and our theme song. I did that and posted it on her facebook account on August 12 morning (August 11 evening in Canada).
Because of the argument about the Linkin Park concert, I told her tha I have a package for her so that she will know that I did not forget about her birthday and her happiness is still my priority. She was happy about it and we were able to fix that issue. During that week, we are very ok. We were very sweet through chat during that week and she agreed for me to go to the Linkin Park concert. We were very ok until August 9th.
August 10th came, I planned that we wil have a chat and webchat through skype on that day and on the 11th as way to spend her birthday before the actual day. I sent her a message on Facebook but her replies were very short and cold. It is the same on Aug 11th.
From week of Aug 12-16, we still chat on facebook but her answers are really short and cold. I asked her what is the problem and she said there is none and she was just busy.
I tried contacting here on her cellphone thru international direct dial (IDD) but she always cancels my call. I did try for 40+ times but she does not answer the phone.
My frustration reached its point on Aug 16 morning. I told her that I am getting stressed about her treatment and I told her that if she does not want to talk to me, she call DHL herself to sort out the delivery of the package.
It started our argument. She said that she was busy moving her things from her aunt's house to her new apartment.
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My gf and I became a couple officially on April 2012. We met each other on Feb 2012. We were office mates. I was a border in their house because their house was near our office. I lived in their house from March to December 2012 until we resigned from work because she received her immigrant Canadian visa. She was petitioned by her aunt since 2007 and it was just approved on latter part of December 2012. She left for Canada on latter part of January 2013.
Our relationship was doing great When she was still here in the Philippines. We love each other so much and she said that I was the only one that made her feel so much loved. She did have some past relationships. Her last relationship was a 5-year relationship which ended around January 2013 because the guy took her granted and their relationship faded.
Since we lived on the same roof, we go to work at the same time. We eat together after office hours.
I have a great relationship with her family. My gf and I went to a lot of dates, and few out of town trips. Before we became a couple, I ended my 9-year relationship with my first GF because my love for her faded away.
My second GF is so emotional and sensitive. But I accept her for what she are. I love her despite of that.
She is the eldest sibling. She grew up in a poor family. When she was still a kid, she helped her family sell food in their small eatery and in side streets. She was a working student since 1st year in college. She was raised by her strict parents who became hard on her. Because of that, my GF became strong and firm.
When she was still here, we had few fights which started in small arguments like when I said something and she did not like it, we will feel pissed and the small fights would being. There was a time when due to my anger, I walked out. She also walked out when we were on a date. But we were able to resolve those things. We cried and forgave each other for what happened.
She went to Canada on January 2013 as an immigrant and left her own family here in the Philippines. Her aunt in Canada filed a petition in 2005 and just got approved on December 2012. She stayed in her aunt's house in Canada. Our mode of communication is thru chatting in facebook even if I am at work and we had webchat thru skype sometimes during the weekend. We cannot do webchat every weekend because we always lose our home internet connection every weekend because the overhead fiber optic cables are being stolen literally in our area every week.
My GF and I do chat in facebook everyday. There are times that there are arguments due to some small and big things. I noticed that almost every month before our month anniversary we had quarrels. One thing that we argue is she says that I don't have enough time for her, even though we do chat everyday even when I am at the office (Morning in Manila, Evening in Canada), it is still not enough for her. Sometimes I get guilty because my boss just sits behind my table and he can see that I am using facebook while at work.
She wants that my full attention is with her. Even if I do multi-tasking at work, she feels sad if I will telling her that I need to finish something at work and I cannot chat with her for the mean time. I also notice that everytime we have arguments, she always resort to breaking up with me and she brings up past issues that we fought before, even if I already forget those issues and considered already done with me.
There was a time that I told her that I am already tired, not in our relationship, but because of her usual resort of breaking up with me and bringing up of past issues everytime we have an argument.
One of the things that we fought before was she told me that we should end our relationship and I should just focus first with my family problems. I felt hurt about it because for me I can manage to face those problems while I am in a relationship. During this argument, we are using our native language of Filipino then she suddenly spoke these words in English. Because of that I felt hurt and I told her that she is arrogant. She felt hurt about it but we were able to fix it and forgave each other.
Another thing that we argued was about religion. We were bought Catholic but she told me she wanted to become a Born Again Christian because she already had some doubts with Catholicism and she felt that she is closer to god by being a Christian. At first I disagreed to it because it entails that we will be going to two separate churches. After some arguments, I agreed to that.
One major argument that we had was when I told her that she should also have some time for herself and she should have some hobbies so that she wont feel very lonely in Canada and during times that we cannot do chat because of our busy schedule. I also said that she should also keep some love for herself and don't pour out all of herself to me. I told that to her because that is what I listened to the homily of the priest during my friend's wedding. The priest said that couple are still two separate individuals that have separate lives from each other, that the only things that can bring them together as a couple are understanding, love and respect.
She perceived that differently and felt so bad. I do not have any intention that we should not be communicating anymore. She said that for her, she does not want to give her attention to any other things except for me. She told me she does not want to have any other hobbies because she just wants to give her full attention to me. We were able to fix this argument.
Her birthday was on August 12. Three weeks before her birthday, I was already thinking of the gift that I will give to her so she will be surprised on her birthday. I bought a backpack because she told me she will moving to an apartment because her aunt treated her negatively and asked to pay her all the expenses her aunt incurred for her to petitioned to Canada. It looked like that her aunt did all that so tha she will look "kind" to their other relatives here in the Philippines.
I also went to my GF's house here in the Philippines to talk to her mother. I asked her mother if she wants to send some of my GF's things to her. Her mother gave me some of her sandals and marathon clothes because my girlfriend is a runner. I also met her girl bestfriend to get her gift for her. I told them that these gifts will be a surprise package for her.
I sent the package via DHL on Aug 4th and it reached the airport on Aug 6th but got stuck in the customs because I was told by DHL customer service that the items need to be cleared by the consignee. This was not told to be by the DHL store representative who I talked to and processed the package. August 12 came and she was not able to receive the package that should have been a surprise to her to make happy. More about this package later.
During the week before her birthday, I told my GF that I want to watch the concert of Linkin Park on Aug 13th (Aug 12th in Canada). At frist she disagreed because she said it is her birthday. I told her that Linkin Park is my favorite foreign rock band of all time and it has been my favorite since high school. I told that we can celebrate her birthday before the day itself. As an alternative, I thought of making a video composed of our pictures and our theme song. I did that and posted it on her facebook account on August 12 morning (August 11 evening in Canada).
Because of the argument about the Linkin Park concert, I told her tha I have a package for her so that she will know that I did not forget about her birthday and her happiness is still my priority. She was happy about it and we were able to fix that issue. During that week, we are very ok. We were very sweet through chat during that week and she agreed for me to go to the Linkin Park concert. We were very ok until August 9th.
August 10th came, I planned that we wil have a chat and webchat through skype on that day and on the 11th as way to spend her birthday before the actual day. I sent her a message on Facebook but her replies were very short and cold. It is the same on Aug 11th.
From week of Aug 12-16, we still chat on facebook but her answers are really short and cold. I asked her what is the problem and she said there is none and she was just busy.
I tried contacting here on her cellphone thru international direct dial (IDD) but she always cancels my call. I did try for 40+ times but she does not answer the phone.
My frustration reached its point on Aug 16 morning. I told her that I am getting stressed about her treatment and I told her that if she does not want to talk to me, she call DHL herself to sort out the delivery of the package.
It started our argument. She said that she was busy moving her things from her aunt's house to her new apartment.
TO BE CONT
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