hello new member here,
i just want the best for my relationship and am really trying. So i figured here would be a good start. I'm 24 working in Japan with the US military. Her and i met last year and things went well. It has been long distance from the very beginning. I met her through her sister who is husband i work with. well i went to her home country and loved it. It was beautiful. She was everything i had heard and observed on skype. We decided that we should close the gap in a few months. well then my doctor tells me i need to have surgery, a few more local annual charges came up all this month. my goal was to pay for the ticket next month. i still think i can do it but i just was being honest with her and letting her know i may not be able to till mid month. She is now worried about how are we going to make it etc. how will she find work. So she came up with a proposal to move to a even further away country(in which tickets are 2x as expensive) and take a 2 year contract where i would not be able to see her for the first year. she has obligations to her family she would like to fulfill so finding a job first is of the utmost importance to her. i have no problems with that, and i will not stand in her way of obtaining that at all. I've gone as far as to give her the local job application sites and helped her fill out the information. I told her not to worry about a thing i will handle everything expenses etc. well yesterday i kind of was complaining about how my cell phone company decided to charge me an outrageous roaming charge during my last visit in a foreign country. That backfired on me and now she is talking about the idea of going to the other country again. I just don't want her to do that, I dont understand how she wants to be away from me when she has the opportunity to be with me. will it be rough starting our lives together yes. If this is what she wants I have no problem with it. but 1 year with out seeing the one I love! I don't know how she can even think that is OK with her. we are engaged planning on marrying upon her arrival. i just dont know. there has to be something going on in her life that she isnt telling me. or she is having regrets i don't know i just cant figure it out.
i just want the best for my relationship and am really trying. So i figured here would be a good start. I'm 24 working in Japan with the US military. Her and i met last year and things went well. It has been long distance from the very beginning. I met her through her sister who is husband i work with. well i went to her home country and loved it. It was beautiful. She was everything i had heard and observed on skype. We decided that we should close the gap in a few months. well then my doctor tells me i need to have surgery, a few more local annual charges came up all this month. my goal was to pay for the ticket next month. i still think i can do it but i just was being honest with her and letting her know i may not be able to till mid month. She is now worried about how are we going to make it etc. how will she find work. So she came up with a proposal to move to a even further away country(in which tickets are 2x as expensive) and take a 2 year contract where i would not be able to see her for the first year. she has obligations to her family she would like to fulfill so finding a job first is of the utmost importance to her. i have no problems with that, and i will not stand in her way of obtaining that at all. I've gone as far as to give her the local job application sites and helped her fill out the information. I told her not to worry about a thing i will handle everything expenses etc. well yesterday i kind of was complaining about how my cell phone company decided to charge me an outrageous roaming charge during my last visit in a foreign country. That backfired on me and now she is talking about the idea of going to the other country again. I just don't want her to do that, I dont understand how she wants to be away from me when she has the opportunity to be with me. will it be rough starting our lives together yes. If this is what she wants I have no problem with it. but 1 year with out seeing the one I love! I don't know how she can even think that is OK with her. we are engaged planning on marrying upon her arrival. i just dont know. there has to be something going on in her life that she isnt telling me. or she is having regrets i don't know i just cant figure it out.
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