What do your family and friends say about closing the distance?

[carbonell2910]

I personally would have to move with all my friends and family thinking it is a bad idea.

I know they are worried about me and what would happen if the relationship doesn't work andn I'm far away from my family and best friends.
I love my SO and I have thought about it a LOT. I'm moving in March.

What about you? What your people or your SO think about closing the distance?

[jdwate]

I've never told anyone to be honesty.

[dglynn77]

They say "Hurry up and marry him already!" They all know how happy he makes me Luckily for me, they love him lots!!! All approve!

[Yaaamiii]

My SO will still be in college when I graduate. Even though we started college at the same time, his program is longer than mine. I plan on moving to his college's city after I graduate. But the reason is to continue my education by enrolling in his college's master's program. So my mom's cool with it, mostly because I plan on continuing my education. Since we started CD, my friends know him and support us. And my friends from college all know him and are friends with him as well, so my friends are supportive as well.

[pink elephant]

We ended up getting married mostly for the visa and so we could finally be together (we plan to have a formal ceremony with friends and family much later down the line) and originally after we got married here, planned to stay in the US. Unfortunately, too many things happened here for that not to happen, and my husband ended up moving back to the UK where we both decided to reside. My application for a UK spouse visa is still something we're waiting on..

My family is like, "COOL it's about time!" (My parents actually moved here from another country and then I was born here, so they COMPLETELY understand! My dad lived in the US for two years until my mom was finally able to join him here.)

Whereas my in-laws are like, "Please come over here as soon as possible!" I also lived abroad for a few years and just came back in 2010, joined a martial arts club, and ended up making some new and really good friends there.. who I'll definitely miss because I became really close with them.

But many of them have been so supportive and understanding, that I feel so incredibly blessed to have such tremendous support. My friends and family are worried (mostly about me being alone there without anybody and leaving behind the life I have here), but the time length of our relationship (over 6 years since we've known each other), our dealing with multiple time zones, my experience living abroad alone for three years, to his demonstration of intent and patience to be with me, to his proposal and determination to make things work have been proof enough to both his parents, mine, and our friends that we can and will make this work.

[Snowlilly]

It's funny but my parents actually are from two different countries. My mom is german and my dad met her while stationed in Germany waiting to go to Vietnam. He ended up getting out of the military and then moving to Germany to marry her even though he didn't speak a lick of german. They stayed in Germany until 1979 and then moved to the states when I was 12. So, will be interesting to see once I tell them my plans what they will say.

[ChibiFelicia]

My family and close friends support me. My friends will miss me but they'll want to come visit me once i move to the states. My family are originally from Hong Kong and they've all moved back so im in the UK on my own, they just want me to be happy. They've never met my man! lol but they trust my judgement, i guess they've seen i've matured and become more well rounded since meeting my man. They're worried that if anything happens once i move there that i wont have anyone to turn to however his family have been amazing to me since i've been with him and i know they'll support me and if not...well i kinda been alone for nearly 5 years here and i've been fine. They aint worried about whether i can look after myself.

[efish1042]

I'm going to college in the same town as him. A college I probably would have gone to anyway. My parents are a little leery of us being in the same town without our parents around. They're worried that I won't focus on school (although he was home for a semester so we already had to deal with that), that we will get in trouble, that I will move in with him... I may move in with him next year, but I'm required o live on campus the first year. Hopefully they'll warm up to the idea of it if we do decide to live together next year. My dad is a jerk about my SO, but my mom is happy for me that I won't have to go through this pain anymore.

[Dezface]

Only some know. My sister is really worried how my dad is going to take it. And I am too. My best friend is sad but she moved away for a a guy too (even though they both came back here.) They're all supportive but wish I didn't have to leave to be happy. I completely get that.

[Carenza LaRue]

most of my friends are exited but they do question what I would do if the relationship ends and I am in the US..

my family is fine with it.... except for my mom.
she is worried what I would do and how I would handle things in case the relationship is ending.

problem is that I am only child.... and I am taking my daughter with me.. so my mom ends up alone.
she wants me to be happy of course but I guess my mom doesn't want to be alone and that is one of her motives.

[Haley53]

I haven't really discussed it with my mother. The only times she's brought it up has been to whine (semi-playfully, semi-seriously) about how he's always welcome to move out here but he can't steal me away from her (), and also that I have to finish school. She dropped out of her doctoral degree program to marry my father, got her MA instead, and now seems to be terrified that I will do the same. She doesn't realise that my education is one thing that doesn't bend for a relationship. But that's about as far as it's ever been discussed. She also knows that I will be staying most of the year with my SO next year, and simply suggested I also spend time seeing other parts of Europe, which I'd hoped to do as well.

[princessmeg1328]

My family and friends have known pretty much from the beginning of our relationship that I would be moving to England. It was a conversation that my fiance and I early in our relationship. It makes my mom sad that I'll be moving away, but she always says that I have to live my life now. She knows that I'm in good hands with my fiance and that he'll take care of me. She's told me that I couldn't have asked for a better man. My friends are just excited that they now have an excuse to go and visit England. They also know that my fiance makes me very happy. Everyone is very supportive. I'm very lucky.

[enemey96]

My Dad is completely supportive of me closing the distance with my SO, especially as he lives in the same country as my SO (my home-country) and it will mean that I get to see him more often. My Mum is supportive, but not as supportive as my Dad. She made it very clear to me that I wouldn't be closing the distance until I'd finished college here - which I only start next week and lasts for 3 years. She can't be not supportive as she moved me and my two sisters here to close the distance in her LDR.
I have talked about it with a few more of my family members, aunts, uncles, etc, and they're all really happy for me and think it's a good idea, but to not push the relationship too much as we're only young. My SO's family are also supportive of it, we don't talk about it very much all together, but his Mum always tells me that if there was anything that she could do so that my SO and I could live together, or at least nearer than 1,000 miles, she would do it as she sees how happy we make each other and how upset we get when we're apart.

[Pixel]

My mom and step dad love my SO so I'm pretty sure they'd support us no matter who was moving.
I think they assume he's moving here so that'd be easier for them to handle...but I'm sure they'd be fine with me moving too. They'd worry about me, but you know.

[lyonsgirl]

My parents love him, & my friends all ask, "Are you engaged yet?!" (lol). My dad isn't thrilled at the idea of me giving up my career to be with him (but I have assured him I won't be moving without a new job) which seems to make him happier. My mom would love it if we would move closer to her... but she just moved to California & we have discussed it. We're not going to live there. Unfortunately for my family, we'll probably end up near his family since they are pretty much all in one place.