hi all, first off, apologies for not posting on the forum in such a long time but some of you might remember that i had a baby girl in the first week of February and well, life has been absolutely hectic! i'm knackered but loving motherhood, it's just an emotional rollercoaster at the moment.
Update: So, my SO was supposed to leave (to return to London) when the baby was 6 weeks old but after lots of thought and realising how hard it was to cope with the baby, he suggested that i return with him. so, we've been back in London for the past month and a half
it's a temporary closing of the distance because i'm only on a tourist visa. if we'd sorted out my spouse visa, we would've had to wait another 3 months or so and i couldn't face being without him for so long, specially that we now have the baby.
in all fairness, things have been really hard even if we've temporarily closed the distance. i miss my parents beyond words, they supported me throughout my pregnancy when my SO and i were still long distance and i was living with my parents and they were so helpful when the baby was born as well.
it was alright when it was just my SO and myself and we were living in London alone but now, i crave the family life and i'm really missing it.
but yes, i know, i'm thrilled to be with my SO.
but the future is uncertain, we don't know how things are gonna work out. who's gonna be living where. i spend a lot of time worrying about that when i know i should most probably enjoy the present but it's really hard, when my SO goes to work, i'm all alone with the baby. and it amplifies the absence of my parents and friends.
i would love some input from you guys, just to gain some perspective and it's great telling you guys what i'm going through, because i know you understand and relate <3
wishing you guys a lovely weekend. thank you for reading
Update: So, my SO was supposed to leave (to return to London) when the baby was 6 weeks old but after lots of thought and realising how hard it was to cope with the baby, he suggested that i return with him. so, we've been back in London for the past month and a half
it's a temporary closing of the distance because i'm only on a tourist visa. if we'd sorted out my spouse visa, we would've had to wait another 3 months or so and i couldn't face being without him for so long, specially that we now have the baby.in all fairness, things have been really hard even if we've temporarily closed the distance. i miss my parents beyond words, they supported me throughout my pregnancy when my SO and i were still long distance and i was living with my parents and they were so helpful when the baby was born as well.
it was alright when it was just my SO and myself and we were living in London alone but now, i crave the family life and i'm really missing it.
but yes, i know, i'm thrilled to be with my SO.
but the future is uncertain, we don't know how things are gonna work out. who's gonna be living where. i spend a lot of time worrying about that when i know i should most probably enjoy the present but it's really hard, when my SO goes to work, i'm all alone with the baby. and it amplifies the absence of my parents and friends.
i would love some input from you guys, just to gain some perspective and it's great telling you guys what i'm going through, because i know you understand and relate <3
wishing you guys a lovely weekend. thank you for reading
). Once that's sorted out, or is at least on the way to being resolved, you can concentrate on working out how to see your family and friends back home more often. You can't worry about fixing everything at once because you'll end up burning out! Regarding support here, does your SO have family living nearby you can turn to? Or are there any local mother and baby groups you could join? The important thing is that you and your SO aren't apart right now, but there are always other people you can reach out to if you feel the need. 
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