Hallo everyone,
My name is Thomas, I´m together with my girlfriend since almost 4 years. She is living in the US and I´m in Germany. We are having planes to finally end this long distance relationship what means that I move to the US but I´m afraid. I know I love her and I know that she loves me a lot. Never someone loved me that much like her, what makes me love her even more for that. But there are still some things which make me worried to make this final step.
- I´m a person who like to know where I´m getting in to but with her that is not really possible. Normally I would move with her together before I get married but like in the most cases of LDR you have to do the second step before the first. So we never lived really together which makes me worried if there are some things I can live with.
-Also I am a family person. I love my family and my three nieces. I´m am there godfather but when I´m living in the US I can hold the relationship I have with them now. I feel like I wouldn´t be a good godfather for them. I am living right now 1h away from my family and drive every 2 weeks down to see them and my old friends from kindergarten. What if I miss them too much and wanne go back but she told me she wouldn´t move to Germany bc she can´t work her and she has a lot of debt to pay.
-Also silly but a big deal for me. It is a saying "Look at the mother and you know how the daughter will look like" Well I don´t like how the mom looks at all and I´m worried that if she really goes in her direction that I´m going to cheat on her in some years. I know that sound stupid and I know that normally the character should be what matters bc I wouldn´t look the same as well and her character is... I haven´t meet a better person in my life. But I working out 4 times a week, sport is very important for me but she doesn´t really do sport. I would like that she is more active but if I tell her do more sport bc she feels fat sometimes I tell her you look good but do some more sport. But she never really does it.
Also she has really big hips which I don´t like but I hate myself for being so superficial. She looks great not like my dream girl but I´m not sure that the commercial influenced me so much that I´m looking for too good looking girls.
If i´m with her we are having a great time and I´m glad to have her but sometimes I catch myself looking after girls which looking a little bit better than her in my eye.
So at the end I know I love her and she is the first women I would marry but I´m not sure if I love her enough to make this final step and give up my family, my friends, my security my country gives me: health insurance, good paid job and take care about me after I retiree.
Any help, recommendations how I find out if she is the one for the rest of my life?
Thomas
My name is Thomas, I´m together with my girlfriend since almost 4 years. She is living in the US and I´m in Germany. We are having planes to finally end this long distance relationship what means that I move to the US but I´m afraid. I know I love her and I know that she loves me a lot. Never someone loved me that much like her, what makes me love her even more for that. But there are still some things which make me worried to make this final step.
- I´m a person who like to know where I´m getting in to but with her that is not really possible. Normally I would move with her together before I get married but like in the most cases of LDR you have to do the second step before the first. So we never lived really together which makes me worried if there are some things I can live with.
-Also I am a family person. I love my family and my three nieces. I´m am there godfather but when I´m living in the US I can hold the relationship I have with them now. I feel like I wouldn´t be a good godfather for them. I am living right now 1h away from my family and drive every 2 weeks down to see them and my old friends from kindergarten. What if I miss them too much and wanne go back but she told me she wouldn´t move to Germany bc she can´t work her and she has a lot of debt to pay.
-Also silly but a big deal for me. It is a saying "Look at the mother and you know how the daughter will look like" Well I don´t like how the mom looks at all and I´m worried that if she really goes in her direction that I´m going to cheat on her in some years. I know that sound stupid and I know that normally the character should be what matters bc I wouldn´t look the same as well and her character is... I haven´t meet a better person in my life. But I working out 4 times a week, sport is very important for me but she doesn´t really do sport. I would like that she is more active but if I tell her do more sport bc she feels fat sometimes I tell her you look good but do some more sport. But she never really does it.
Also she has really big hips which I don´t like but I hate myself for being so superficial. She looks great not like my dream girl but I´m not sure that the commercial influenced me so much that I´m looking for too good looking girls.
If i´m with her we are having a great time and I´m glad to have her but sometimes I catch myself looking after girls which looking a little bit better than her in my eye.
So at the end I know I love her and she is the first women I would marry but I´m not sure if I love her enough to make this final step and give up my family, my friends, my security my country gives me: health insurance, good paid job and take care about me after I retiree.
Any help, recommendations how I find out if she is the one for the rest of my life?
Thomas
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