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I just arrived home after meeting with my group of girl friends. We are all part of a big group of friends but once in a while the girls meet to catch up and tell all the dirty details we don't tell our guy friends.
This was kind of a farewell thing, to meet only them before going away for good. Before continuing I should mention that I'm stressed and I get irritated easily and I would appreciate some comprehension.
Well, then we were talking about my farewell picnic next saturday where I invited more than 20 people. I'm sort of a hippy-sharing person so I just made a FB event mentioning it would be nice if everyone could bring something with them. I was not planning to do a brunch or a fancy lunch at the parc, but just us hanging out. We're 20 people but Im sure we were not going to end up with 20 french fries packages. I mentioned it on the event, but yesterday a girl (B) and her boyfriend told me it would be good if I could tell them what to bring. I said I could write a post asking people to write there what are they are going to bring so that everyone could see, but I cannot decide for them (of course...). So then B. brought the subject up again and they were mocking me about everyone taking beer and stuff but no real food, or no sweets, whatever. I started to get annoyed: I'm really good at picnic's meaning that I've been in several big picnics and everything turned out well because in good faith everyone always tries to be creative. They continuing this, specially B, and I told her: "what do you want me to do?!" and I was all like "I did what you asked, so what are you telling me to do?" and I thought I was clear when yesterday and today I told her "yeaaaah, okay, maybe you're right, I will do the post!". I was not being snarky. I was asking what the hell was she asking me or suggesting me to do! But I guess people always take this ironically and never answer.
She really irritated me and the others girls too because I was saying: we don't aaaall need to eat 4 eggs each, it's kinda random, just take what you can and not spend much and we'll be fine and I guess for them this was too "blasé". I don't even have the time to think about something so trivial because I'm so nervous with everything and honestly I don't care what we eat. But I followed a good suggestion and the girl continued yelling at me.
Of course then I did the same and the others were looking and the girl said "I don't want to talk to you" even though I was literally asking her what was bothering her. She didn't answered.
Then we had our rides. B, me and other girl were in the car. I asked her "so... can I talk to you?" (really putting my pride aside) and she ignored me and started talking with the other girl. During all the way to the car and then to my house they were talking the two of them totally ignoring me when I had tried to forget she was being very unkind and tried to say "let's turn the page and forget this". If I wasn't afraid of being alone at night I would much rather prefer to go by bus. It was like I was not there. Until the car I actually stand behind them, because they "forgot" a *friend* was there.
I know I was also unkind and totally disproportionated the situation and so did she but she didn't admited it. I was trying to, but the girl shut me up and cut me off and started texting at the table, which is also so rude. I tried to explain this when I said I was not acting snarky, but rather understanding what the heck were we fighting about. She ignored me. The. whole. time.
I'm so upset. I can forget this, but she can't. I don't want someone like that at my picnic. She always thinks she is right and always has to have the final word, so everyone else is a stupid for her. (Like when I tried to explain what was the withdrawal bleeding vs. period and she said my doctor was not speaking true (and she studies science, but ok....)
What do you do in this situations? what do you think I should do? Im really bad at fighting because I rarely do, but I don't really understand the logic of "I'm not answering you" when someone is trying to solve a very childish and stupid conflict. Can you just take yourself out of the conversation??! Or end the conversation when someone has something to say???! It's not like I was mistreating her or something, so I don't think it's polite to do this, just because you want to feel angry.
The other girls were trying not to be part of the conflict but seriously some help would be handy.
Just to finish this: They were so condescending with me talking about we'll end up with 20 bottles of beer and nothing more. They were talking as if I never did a picnic, like I was 10 or something. There is a whole part of me they don't know. It's not even about it but for god sake, Im a picnic fan, I go to picnics lots of time and I don't need people mocking my choices. Suggestions? perfect, I accept them when I agree with them. About the rest I had no idea what the hell was that.
I just arrived home after meeting with my group of girl friends. We are all part of a big group of friends but once in a while the girls meet to catch up and tell all the dirty details we don't tell our guy friends.
This was kind of a farewell thing, to meet only them before going away for good. Before continuing I should mention that I'm stressed and I get irritated easily and I would appreciate some comprehension.
Well, then we were talking about my farewell picnic next saturday where I invited more than 20 people. I'm sort of a hippy-sharing person so I just made a FB event mentioning it would be nice if everyone could bring something with them. I was not planning to do a brunch or a fancy lunch at the parc, but just us hanging out. We're 20 people but Im sure we were not going to end up with 20 french fries packages. I mentioned it on the event, but yesterday a girl (B) and her boyfriend told me it would be good if I could tell them what to bring. I said I could write a post asking people to write there what are they are going to bring so that everyone could see, but I cannot decide for them (of course...). So then B. brought the subject up again and they were mocking me about everyone taking beer and stuff but no real food, or no sweets, whatever. I started to get annoyed: I'm really good at picnic's meaning that I've been in several big picnics and everything turned out well because in good faith everyone always tries to be creative. They continuing this, specially B, and I told her: "what do you want me to do?!" and I was all like "I did what you asked, so what are you telling me to do?" and I thought I was clear when yesterday and today I told her "yeaaaah, okay, maybe you're right, I will do the post!". I was not being snarky. I was asking what the hell was she asking me or suggesting me to do! But I guess people always take this ironically and never answer.
She really irritated me and the others girls too because I was saying: we don't aaaall need to eat 4 eggs each, it's kinda random, just take what you can and not spend much and we'll be fine and I guess for them this was too "blasé". I don't even have the time to think about something so trivial because I'm so nervous with everything and honestly I don't care what we eat. But I followed a good suggestion and the girl continued yelling at me.
Of course then I did the same and the others were looking and the girl said "I don't want to talk to you" even though I was literally asking her what was bothering her. She didn't answered.
Then we had our rides. B, me and other girl were in the car. I asked her "so... can I talk to you?" (really putting my pride aside) and she ignored me and started talking with the other girl. During all the way to the car and then to my house they were talking the two of them totally ignoring me when I had tried to forget she was being very unkind and tried to say "let's turn the page and forget this". If I wasn't afraid of being alone at night I would much rather prefer to go by bus. It was like I was not there. Until the car I actually stand behind them, because they "forgot" a *friend* was there.
I know I was also unkind and totally disproportionated the situation and so did she but she didn't admited it. I was trying to, but the girl shut me up and cut me off and started texting at the table, which is also so rude. I tried to explain this when I said I was not acting snarky, but rather understanding what the heck were we fighting about. She ignored me. The. whole. time.
I'm so upset. I can forget this, but she can't. I don't want someone like that at my picnic. She always thinks she is right and always has to have the final word, so everyone else is a stupid for her. (Like when I tried to explain what was the withdrawal bleeding vs. period and she said my doctor was not speaking true (and she studies science, but ok....)
What do you do in this situations? what do you think I should do? Im really bad at fighting because I rarely do, but I don't really understand the logic of "I'm not answering you" when someone is trying to solve a very childish and stupid conflict. Can you just take yourself out of the conversation??! Or end the conversation when someone has something to say???! It's not like I was mistreating her or something, so I don't think it's polite to do this, just because you want to feel angry.
The other girls were trying not to be part of the conflict but seriously some help would be handy.
Just to finish this: They were so condescending with me talking about we'll end up with 20 bottles of beer and nothing more. They were talking as if I never did a picnic, like I was 10 or something. There is a whole part of me they don't know. It's not even about it but for god sake, Im a picnic fan, I go to picnics lots of time and I don't need people mocking my choices. Suggestions? perfect, I accept them when I agree with them. About the rest I had no idea what the hell was that.
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