Hi all, I need a bit of advice, but first a little background info first
Met my other half in 2011 when doing a masters at a university (he was a first year) ( I was 21, he was 18)
Finished masters in 2012 , got with other half, originally the distance was 160 miles
Other half was in 2nd year, I got a job which is just 60 miles where he is from, so I moved away from home partly to close the distance and partly because the job situation back home sucked.
Now, Shane is finishing university next year in June (2015) and will be turning 22. I have gotten a permanent job and am starting to build a career in the place I am in. It is 60 miles, I also got my drivers licence and a car which means he lives only an hour's drive away from me. Shane has just applied for his learners licence and will hopefully be able to drive before the year is out.
Anyway, at first I always thought that I would be the one to move to fully close the distance, but since I have gotten a really great job, with great pay and I am settled in the location (It is perfect for me, an hour from him, an hour from my family and friends).
At the same time I don't want to be doing long distance forever
How do I bring it up about maybe closing the distance when he is finished university? Now I part of me really dosent want to bring it up because he will just be finished college and still very young (just turning 22) and not know what to do. I don't want to put any pressure on him. Yet at the same time I was 22 when I decided that I wanted to move to be semi closer to him.
If Shane moved nearer to me , he would also be a lot closer to his best friend who lives just 20 minutes from me, so I have pull with that too...
Any advice on how to have this conversation/ approach it would be very helpful
Met my other half in 2011 when doing a masters at a university (he was a first year) ( I was 21, he was 18)
Finished masters in 2012 , got with other half, originally the distance was 160 miles
Other half was in 2nd year, I got a job which is just 60 miles where he is from, so I moved away from home partly to close the distance and partly because the job situation back home sucked.
Now, Shane is finishing university next year in June (2015) and will be turning 22. I have gotten a permanent job and am starting to build a career in the place I am in. It is 60 miles, I also got my drivers licence and a car which means he lives only an hour's drive away from me. Shane has just applied for his learners licence and will hopefully be able to drive before the year is out.
Anyway, at first I always thought that I would be the one to move to fully close the distance, but since I have gotten a really great job, with great pay and I am settled in the location (It is perfect for me, an hour from him, an hour from my family and friends).
At the same time I don't want to be doing long distance forever
How do I bring it up about maybe closing the distance when he is finished university? Now I part of me really dosent want to bring it up because he will just be finished college and still very young (just turning 22) and not know what to do. I don't want to put any pressure on him. Yet at the same time I was 22 when I decided that I wanted to move to be semi closer to him.
If Shane moved nearer to me , he would also be a lot closer to his best friend who lives just 20 minutes from me, so I have pull with that too...
Any advice on how to have this conversation/ approach it would be very helpful
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