I can strongly relate to your chap's position. I also yearn to get my travelling out of my system before the distance is closed, its not a case of needing to seed wild oats, but needing to see some of the world before the large commitments of property and a 'home base' with a significant other tie you down. Although it is also worth asking him and setting down some ground rules if it comes to it, some people would happily take liberties. If he has said that he would like it if you could join him, I would hazard a guess at he does just want to see the world before planting his roots. Equally there is a fair amount of pressure on young people in this country, particularly young professionals, to have been out and traveled to some extent. Employers love it, universities love it, peers love it. So this might be part of his motivation!
Is there any chance that if he were to travel for a year, there was maybe a couple of destinations that you could meet up in? I know you've said that you can't afford to go away a full year, but maybe you could manage a few weeks away at a time. That way he gets some travel alone, you also get some time together, and you both could have a couple of adventures to experience together. That would be the way I would want to play it, but I have itchy feet so I'm pretty biased! Of course there are other opportunities to travel later in life, but it is much easier when you don't have the ties that you'll end up with later in life.
Is there any chance that if he were to travel for a year, there was maybe a couple of destinations that you could meet up in? I know you've said that you can't afford to go away a full year, but maybe you could manage a few weeks away at a time. That way he gets some travel alone, you also get some time together, and you both could have a couple of adventures to experience together. That would be the way I would want to play it, but I have itchy feet so I'm pretty biased! Of course there are other opportunities to travel later in life, but it is much easier when you don't have the ties that you'll end up with later in life.
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