Really Need Help, Things are Tough...

[Petals]

You will have to wait till it is sorted. She can't vote or go into a 18 and over club without an ID. She needs to put some serious legwork in and take care of this or she is going nowhere. Adults should have a handle on this and she should have her own docs, not mom and dad. She should also have a school or work ID, or does she just live with parents doing nothing? I had about 10 IDs in USA by 18. Does she not drive? We are land of ID,so if legal in USA she should have a few, if not, she is stuck.

Closing distance is huge, sounds like some time is not a bad idea at this point.

Even trying to watch a R-rated movie at the cinema requires ID...This still doesn't sit right.

[whatruckus]

I also feel like it shouldn't be your responsibility to take it on. Plus, like I said before, you literally can't do anything because you're not related to her and you don't live in the same country. She needs to put the effort in and do it herself.

I don't know what else you want from us because we've given you all the tools and advice we can give.

[dglynn77]

Her parents lost her birth certificate. Idk how one gets a hold of an SSN card once it's lost.
And not to be rude, but I'm Canadian, and our Google servers work differently, preventing me from getting answers about things in America as easily.

I don't know, because she doesn't really know where to start, just as I don't know where to start. Why else would I come to a forum full of people in Long Distance Relationships to ask for help? I don't particularly understand why this is so jarring. But nonetheless, thank you for giving me something. At a glance none of these recovery methods seem possible when they require so much ID she doesn't have.

MAYBE if you were a little more appreciative, that would go miles in helping you as well.

See the overall issue here, is in New Mexico, immigration laws are fucking TIGHT. She actually has her Birth Certificate. But in order to get an SSN card, you need an ID, in order to get an ID you need an SSN card. (Or some other bullshit things that only 2% of people even have.)

I'm sorry but your posts contradict themselves, which makes less people want to spend their relaxation time helping you as no one wants to help a scammer.

And although I'm not a huge fan of tons of laws, most laws are actually there for a reason. There is no one sitting down writing laws just to F over your SO. There are laws in place and EVERYONE has to jump through the same hoops, so her situation IS possible.

[merlinkitty]

Listen, I'm really trying to be understanding of this situation, but the fact that no one is doing anything down in NM to work on this isn't sitting well with me. I think it's flat just disrespectful to you and really shows where priorities are and aren't.

I am sure this isn't the first time something like this has happened. There is a solution to EVERYTHING. Dwessie (not you Tamriza) needs to go back and contact the people she has already spoken to. She needs to tell them what the issue is (like an adult, without getting angry!), and find out what she needs. Get it in writing. Get the names of the people that gave her the information (first and last!) and any other identifiers (badge numbers, employee ID's, whatever it takes). If they tell her to bring things she doesn't have access to, ask them to help her sort through this, and find a solution.

She needs to work with these people and not against.

I know you guys are concerned about her coming to Canada. I'm concerned about her getting employed. Having a future. Being a legal human being on the grid. You two may dislike humanity in general (I get it! I was once very similar!) but she's going to be stuck living at mom and dad's house the rest of her life if she can't figure out how to get over this revulsion of humanity and interact with it on some level of decency and respect.

I know this sounds super rude, but since I've been putting your tone aside, do me the favor and do the same for me. I'm just aghast at the idea that she's putting you in this position. It's offensive. To you I might add, even if you don't realize it.

[Dwessie]

Because dad's too easily overwhelmed and mom's frickin dumb

[Dwessie]

Also please don't yell at my girlfriend.
Also Tam I thought you said you deleted this?