Backstory: So I live in NY and SO is in CA. I have been in NY for 1.5 years and was planning to stay another 8-10 months before relocating. Unfortunately, I was laid off from my job and my working visa was revoked, so I figured now was a better time than ever in terms of closing the distance. Despite it being quite a bit earlier than planned.
I am currently working on getting a job either near him in Orange County, or in LA. If I find one in OC, we talked about living together, which makes sense both financially and the fact that I do not have a car, so I will be relying solely on him to get to/from work until I get one.
It all sounded romantic and lovely, but now I'm getting cold feet and petrified about living with someone I've only been together with for 10 months. He is so open to it and now I'm getting really scared that I'm rushing in to moving in together when we haven't even been a close distance couple yet. I've got him all excited about it, even though he asked me if I was sure it was what I wanted and I said yes. Now I'm scared and not so sure I also know he really does not want to live with room mates anymore, so he will resent that he has to due to my cold feet.
Any words of advice? Did anyone move straight in with their long distance SO's?
I am currently working on getting a job either near him in Orange County, or in LA. If I find one in OC, we talked about living together, which makes sense both financially and the fact that I do not have a car, so I will be relying solely on him to get to/from work until I get one.
It all sounded romantic and lovely, but now I'm getting cold feet and petrified about living with someone I've only been together with for 10 months. He is so open to it and now I'm getting really scared that I'm rushing in to moving in together when we haven't even been a close distance couple yet. I've got him all excited about it, even though he asked me if I was sure it was what I wanted and I said yes. Now I'm scared and not so sure I also know he really does not want to live with room mates anymore, so he will resent that he has to due to my cold feet.
Any words of advice? Did anyone move straight in with their long distance SO's?
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