Who would move?

[solleftea]

I will move to his country for the fact that it will be a million times easier. I would honestly rather him move here but it just won't work out that way.

[Lumos]

We have no idea yet, since neither of us has really decided what kind of career we want. We're both open to moving though. I love where he lives (Seattle), and his family is really great, but I don't really want to move so far away from my family in Houston. He likes Houston too (especially the food :P). At the moment, it would be easiest for me to move because he's still studying for his undergraduate degree, and I'm not yet sure where I want to go to grad school. I'm sure we'll be happy wherever we end up.

However, none of this really matters right now because we're together in Florida until January We found an internship we could do together.

[lisaar910]

Will is moving here for several reasons. We both live near our families, but Will isn't very close to his family. I'm extremely close to my family, and he loves being around them. They've welcomed him like he's already part of our family. The cost of living is also significantly cheaper here. We both have goals to own a home and raise a family, and in California that would be much more difficult. Maybe we'll be able to talk his parents and sister into moving here too. That's my dream.

[Kika]

I will move to him for similar reason as lisaar said. I'm not very close to my family, I feel much better with his family. Also, he is settled down (job, family, friends) and I'm still studying, therefore my friends won't stay in the same city. We are consireding moving together to completely different location.

[Laura024]

We're actually both moving. He's coming to the US and I'm following him to whichever state he goes to school in.

[MeeshaLenee]

We're both willing to move, but it works out better that I move to be with him (April 2011!), than that he moves to be with me. I was already planning on moving out of my family's house in the near future anyway, so I'm in a good situation for moving, whereas John has things keeping him in Florida for a few more years at least.

We do have plans, though, to move to Indiana in 3-4 years for school. Maybe sooner. We're both going to be taking classes at the community college in Tallahassee, and then transferring to Ball State University in Indiana because it's closer to his family and he misses them.

The great thing about Indiana is that it's a lot closer to Iowa than Florida is, so I'll be closer to my family as well, at least as long as they're still living in Iowa.

We're very very fortunate to live in the same country; even when we both are a thousand miles away from our families, visiting isn't next-to-impossible, it's just inconvenient and requires more planning than if we lived just a couple hours away.


I definitely agree with the sentiment that if only one person is moving, it should have nothing to do with gender, it should have everything to do with what works out best all around, for everyone. The idea of male dominance in a heterosexual relationship doesn't bother me in and of itself, it's really up to each couple to figure out how they want their relationship to work. I just think that it generally doesn't have a place in deciding which person should move to be with the other, since each will have his/her own life and goals to consider when making a decision like that. Realistically, even if a man thinks his SO should move to be with him, it would be selfish to ask her to give up everything for him if it would be easier for him to uproot.

[SciFiFreak185]

I don't really know on this one. I honestly think either of us could move... eventually. I'm sure this is complicated for everyone. This is how it plays out for my boyfriend and I. He can't move to me yet, he just got a job in Oregon, he has to finish all of his training their before he could switch to work at a different location. Eventually he could work almost anywhere in the country. He honestly told me that if he had met me earlier he would have tried to switch to a closer location so he could be with me. On my end I work in healthcare and could get a job anywhere. It was always my intention to finish my grad school (which is online) which would take about 3 years and then leave Oklahoma, didn't really know where I was going to end up. I had this plan way before I ever met my boyfriend. So I could move to be closer to him. I'm just not ready as moving up there would be a one way thing, I would not be able to move back to Oklahoma and be where i am now. I don't make quite enough to pay for daycare and all the bills, so currently my mother watches my son. Moving away would infuriate my mother and she would not watch my son if things didn't go well after I moved. I hate sounding like devil's advocate, but I know relationships don't always work out, having been engaged twice (neither worked out, and I've never been married).

He has never pressured me to move in with him. Although I know when he got his apartment in Oregon, he was thinking of me and my son and what we would need. He got a 2 bedroom apartment, one bedroom is empty (so that my son would have a place). His place is just a few blocks from an elementary school. There are also a couple hospitals nearby, so that I could get a job there. He always tells me, "I want to be ready, when you're ready." A few nights ago he told me he'd even spotted a slightly bigger place to move into if his current apartment was too small for the 3 of us, should I move up there.

[xNanax]

I will be moving. Because my SO doesn't like where I live xD Plus he's a total momma's boy and won't want to leave his mommy behind :P But it's ok, I want to leave this place anyway. I think it will be nice living in Rochester, NY

[sam]

So I previously posted in this thread that I'll be the one moving to Finland, but that's not looking too likely right now. We might have to have a year of her living in England with me before I'll be able to live in Finland with her.

The Finnish immigration laws are pretty ridiculous, to be honest.. Especially considering I'm from the EU

[squiddie]

Yeah Sam, I've been following your Finnish immigration travails. It is rather absurd. I thought immigration was supposed to be a lot easier for people within the EU.

Though I guess increased threats of terrorism and "homegrown" terrorists is not helping.

[sam]

Yeah Sam, I've been following your Finnish immigration travails. It is rather absurd. I thought immigration was supposed to be a lot easier for people within the EU.

Though I guess increased threats of terrorism and "homegrown" terrorists is not helping.

Pain in the ass I seriously think it'd be easier for me to move 1000's of miles further, and to a non-EU country than Finland

[MissAnnThropee]

I'm going to be the one moving next year. My SO is in the Navy, so I'm pretty much following him wherever he needs to go. It makes the decision pretty easy. :P

[sabby64]

I'd say we'd both move XD Hahaha, sounds strange but since we're only apart because of school and we come from the same hometown, we'll probably be moving together afterwards to somewhere both of us can agree to. Neither of us wants to stay in Yellowknife, so we'll definitely be moving together.

Before that though, he is moving to Lethbridge so we can graduate together

[Trethsparr]

I'm moving. He has another year of college left. As for me, it's not too big of a deal because I formerly lived in San Diego (where he is now) for 6.5 years before this recent move. I have friends and relations back there, so I guess I'll pick up mostly where I left off. After he graduates, though, we'll go where the jobs are.

[Heather]

I think it's up in the air, in the beginning he would be the one to move here, then we kinda discussed me moving there. So we aren't sure right now...hopefully he moves here, I don't see myself leaving my family and the place I grew up etc..but in a way, I want to move there. I don't know. (What do you think babe?)