Who would move?

[kiara_silver]

I would move if we got married, thats the only way i would move. So until then its just going to have to be visits for him. I need the guarantee before i leave my family. Then and only then would i move anywhere for him. Till then if he wanted to close the distance he would have to move here, or wait until were at that level in our relationship. Because i love him, but my family is important to me too, and i think its easier to say im moving with my husband, rather than boyfriend. So till then there's no moving for us just yet, lets see how this summer goes lol

[widespread_panic]

Either I will move to him cause he's in the film industry and it would be hard for him to find a job outside of Cali, or we will be in a LDR for...well forever. LOL!

Actually we've both said that we would try and find a new place to move together, but that was before he made a drastic change of careers which has somewhat narrowed his options of where he can live. But we'll see...I'm secretly hoping that he'll be done with Cali in the next year and move back here.

[8000miles]

hmm well ours has nothing to do with gender. ahah She's coming to live here while we go to school. She can't STAND living in home country (Singapore) so if we got married we would certainly not move there. We've talked about where we'd want to live and we don't really know. We're going to travel around the world and want to stay in Africa for a few years or so. We aren't sure where we want to settle down in the end, but it's more likely here in the States than Singapore a guess.. We'll see

[ashleecarol]

My SO will be moving here to Oklahoma. Due to the economy, it is just too unrealistic for us to live down in Florida. Too much $$$. We would never survive. The cost of living is much easier here and there are still multiple options for jobs that will be related to his major, once he graduates. There isn't a lot of pressure. He is the one that brought up the cost of living and he loves my state He finds it rather peaceful here and he adores my family.
Also, his family is far more capable than mine to travel. His family travels all the time and mine is rather stationary. It'll be no problem for them to visit him when he is here.
However, when it comes down to it, if he is unable to move here due to his limit range of jobs (mechanical engineer), I can follow him anywhere. I am going to be a RN so I will have the more flexible job to allow moving.
But, we have plans for him to move here in less than 2 years

[Phimini]

If Corey and I end up moving in together, I've decided it's absolutely out of the question to make him move to me. I am very close to my family but I just couldn't make him move. His father was a military man when he was a child so he moved frequently. He shared with me that, because of his constant moving, he's lost the ability to form meaningful bonds and connections with people. I remember when he told me about it, it broke my heart when said he was 'broken' because of it. I simply could not make him move again. So I will move to him if everything works between us. Six hours is a long way from home but it is closer than some people here have moved.

[BlueCat]

In your relationship, who would be the one to move? Why?
We don't know yet. We haven't made plans for it, though will be during my extended stay coming up in July. I get the feeling it's leaning towards me moving though. I know I'm not completely ok with it, not just because of my family/friends, but I'm really attached to the natural aspect of australia, the bush and it's wildlife etc as I spend a lot of time out in it. Though I can enjoy that in the states as well. But, we've both always known that moving would be hard, and as much as I would hate to leave Aus, if I get to be with him that's what matters. That and a move doesn't have to be forever. He says we can always move after a few years if we want, but I see it being more difficult than that. So I don't know.

Do you feel there is an expectation or pressure for one of you to move over the other?
To some extent yes, there is always some pressure I think for both of us, but that's only natural as neither of us wants to leave our 'home'. But I feel a bit pressured since I'm finished studying and he's not.

[MusicalSoul22]

Im a massage therapist so my job is very easy to relocate. My SO is going to school to be a motorcycle mechanic so he's going to go where the money is at. I told him I would go wherever he does. So I guess id be the one to move. But I know he would move back here if he could find a good job. Our economy is just really bad.

[Riyko]

In your relationship, who would be the one to move? (i'm single, but this is for if i'm in a relationship in the future)
He would have to move.

Why?
I'm going to school in September to be a Sign Language Interpreter and when i start that as a career i can only do it in english speaking countries, but after we retire sure we could move to his country.

Do you feel there is an expectation or pressure for one of you to move over the other?
I'm sure there will be, but you can't let it interfere with your relationship with the person you are with.