Hey, this is my first post here, and I hope the community is understanding cause I have a delicate situation to deal with.
So, I am 20 and my girlfriend is 15. I'll start by saying that we never thought about age, she's very,very mature and I know for a fact that I don't have pedophile tendencies of any sort. She also looks like she's at least 18 years old. Most people are close minded and tend to pick on this a lot without having a clue about the situation. So, now that I got that out of the way, I'll get to the actual issue we have.
Her parents are of tamil culture, so she is constrained to either marry her cousin, or a man with "status" ( that's what they call it,aka cash ) of the same culture and religion, after the age of 23, from what I've read and what she told me. That's not gonna be a problem since she'll run away from home and come to me when she'll be 18, but until then...
And here's where our problem lays down, the superficial values that her family lives by, makes it really hard for us to meet, since she'll never be allowed to come to me, and there's no way I can visit and stay at her place, because she's not allowed to have a boyfriend ever, she must only have a husband, and after 7-8 years.
Last time her parents found out that she's still talking to me, her mother beat her with something from the kitchen until it broke, and she was forced into giving them her skype/fb accounts. I know how sensitive she is, she cries if I somehow forget to read for her good night stories until she falls asleep. When she told me about what happened, I sat in a corner and cried like a 5 year old. I felt so powerless and could only think about my angel suffering.
Anyway, I'm a student and I won't start working until next summer because of the busy college schedule, so my pockets are pretty empty,and her, well she doesn't have her own money either, only what her parents give her. We really want to meet this summer and we figured that I could rent a room or stay at a hotel for a week. It's not much but hey, it's a first step. Thing is together we only got like 60-70% of the money we need for bus/plane tickets and a room for a week. She asked her mom to search for a job for her tommorow, and she agreed, so there's that, but do you have any other ideas about how we can make this easier until she's of age to come at me and live together at my place ? ( I got my own house here ) . Only the tickets are my money for a month, and I'm not complaining cause it's completely worth it, it's just that we won't be able to do it too often
So, I am 20 and my girlfriend is 15. I'll start by saying that we never thought about age, she's very,very mature and I know for a fact that I don't have pedophile tendencies of any sort. She also looks like she's at least 18 years old. Most people are close minded and tend to pick on this a lot without having a clue about the situation. So, now that I got that out of the way, I'll get to the actual issue we have.
Her parents are of tamil culture, so she is constrained to either marry her cousin, or a man with "status" ( that's what they call it,aka cash ) of the same culture and religion, after the age of 23, from what I've read and what she told me. That's not gonna be a problem since she'll run away from home and come to me when she'll be 18, but until then...
And here's where our problem lays down, the superficial values that her family lives by, makes it really hard for us to meet, since she'll never be allowed to come to me, and there's no way I can visit and stay at her place, because she's not allowed to have a boyfriend ever, she must only have a husband, and after 7-8 years.
Last time her parents found out that she's still talking to me, her mother beat her with something from the kitchen until it broke, and she was forced into giving them her skype/fb accounts. I know how sensitive she is, she cries if I somehow forget to read for her good night stories until she falls asleep. When she told me about what happened, I sat in a corner and cried like a 5 year old. I felt so powerless and could only think about my angel suffering.
Anyway, I'm a student and I won't start working until next summer because of the busy college schedule, so my pockets are pretty empty,and her, well she doesn't have her own money either, only what her parents give her. We really want to meet this summer and we figured that I could rent a room or stay at a hotel for a week. It's not much but hey, it's a first step. Thing is together we only got like 60-70% of the money we need for bus/plane tickets and a room for a week. She asked her mom to search for a job for her tommorow, and she agreed, so there's that, but do you have any other ideas about how we can make this easier until she's of age to come at me and live together at my place ? ( I got my own house here ) . Only the tickets are my money for a month, and I'm not complaining cause it's completely worth it, it's just that we won't be able to do it too often
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