Happy In-The-End
Hi all, I have not contribute much to this forum in the last 2 years but I would like to share my joy and hopefully you all can be inspired by my story and strengthen your beliefs that Long Distance Relationship does have happy endings.
Some of you might have read a thread I have posted in Nov 2013 (really long time ago) seeking help to make my choices. I was in my early thirties and so was he. I am based in China and he is based in Malaysia, both not out our home country. We stuck it out for two years, setting an ultimate end goal of 2 years. It was not easy, like all the LDRs here, there were tears, fights, missing pangs. At the nearing of that 2 years, we sat down and have multiple deep discussion over face to face, text and FaceTime. To decide whose career to sacrifice? Both of us are working professionals who are deeply committed to our career.
It was a tough choice but I made my choice to quit and join him. Decisions are made on sensible facts (not emotional feelings) like which country is closer to our home country, which country is more conducive for raising a family, which country has more affordable healthcare etc. As much as my company couldn't bear to let me go and I tearfully hand in my letter of resignation, jobs come and go, I have been waiting for the right one for thirty over years. I ain't gonna give this one up without at least trying. I know if I let him go, I would regret for the rest of my life not giving us the chance to be together.
I have successfully relocated myself to Malaysia in April this year and we have gotten married in June! Its been a month now and both of us are adjusting in having each other by our sides constantly. At first, we are so afraid of losing our own space (when you are in a LDR, you have plenty of space) and with me unemployed (losing financial independence) and in a new country so afraid of being too clingy but our fears are unfounded, we love each other company and we love to stay indoor. In fact, our current favourite activity is to cuddle up at home and watched all those movies we have missed watching without each other.
I just want to bring this message across to all LDR couples. Take a risk and find out. We stepped out of our comfort zone and found happiness.
Some of you might have read a thread I have posted in Nov 2013 (really long time ago) seeking help to make my choices. I was in my early thirties and so was he. I am based in China and he is based in Malaysia, both not out our home country. We stuck it out for two years, setting an ultimate end goal of 2 years. It was not easy, like all the LDRs here, there were tears, fights, missing pangs. At the nearing of that 2 years, we sat down and have multiple deep discussion over face to face, text and FaceTime. To decide whose career to sacrifice? Both of us are working professionals who are deeply committed to our career.
It was a tough choice but I made my choice to quit and join him. Decisions are made on sensible facts (not emotional feelings) like which country is closer to our home country, which country is more conducive for raising a family, which country has more affordable healthcare etc. As much as my company couldn't bear to let me go and I tearfully hand in my letter of resignation, jobs come and go, I have been waiting for the right one for thirty over years. I ain't gonna give this one up without at least trying. I know if I let him go, I would regret for the rest of my life not giving us the chance to be together.
I have successfully relocated myself to Malaysia in April this year and we have gotten married in June! Its been a month now and both of us are adjusting in having each other by our sides constantly. At first, we are so afraid of losing our own space (when you are in a LDR, you have plenty of space) and with me unemployed (losing financial independence) and in a new country so afraid of being too clingy but our fears are unfounded, we love each other company and we love to stay indoor. In fact, our current favourite activity is to cuddle up at home and watched all those movies we have missed watching without each other.
I just want to bring this message across to all LDR couples. Take a risk and find out. We stepped out of our comfort zone and found happiness.
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