Hello to everyone! I come here to find support and advices.And maybe your look from distance will help me to understand.
Our relationships started almost two years ago.I am 33 years old woman and he is 39 years old man, divorced and has two kids from previous relationship. We felt closeness right from the beginning.In time he started to talk about meeting each other,and of course i didnt mind.But considering that we live far from each other it wasnt so easy. I have to notice that for him to come to my country is much easier, than for me to come to his, due to difficulties of getting visa and etc.I never insisted for him to come to my place, cause I understood its very far and might cost a lot. But we didnt give up and were waiting for a chance. And in January such chance appeared. Me and my very good friend and co worker ( girl) went for a short trip to city which was much easier and closer for him to come .I told him and he was very happy that finally it will happen. But almost couple days before trip he texted me that he cant come because of work. Of course I was upset but totally understood it. The second chance appeared in few months , but it was created one,i tried so hard to arrange it this time. We set place, time. I took a loan to have enough money to go to those city, I spent 28 hours in train to get there and again was so excited to meet him. Once or twice this time he noticed (between the lines) that so far for him to go and expensive but I worth it . I didnt pay attention to his words at those time. And right before everything was ready, and we were about to meet , we had a little fight, dont even remember what was it about, but he took it seriously and said he will not come to meet me cause i offended him or smth like that. I was devastated and shocked. I went to trip anyway , because the tickets were bought and hotel booked.After I came back home, he texted me with words how stupid he was, that he loves me so much and I have to forgive him and give him one more chance to prove his love. And I gave up and told him yes. In august we decided to try to meet again , and he swore that he will do anything this time to meet me and will not waste the chance. But I didnt believe him this time. But was curious to hear the excuses. And the next morning excuses were ready. He said he checked flights and ticket to the city we dealed to meet in( from London to Odessa (Ukraine)) costs around 2000 british pounds and of course its very expensive. And he said that it would be much easier for me to make a biometric passport ,which will allow me to go to EU and meet him there. And I said ok. But same time checked if the price he told me is real.So I just googled it and saw that prices starts from 150 british pounds.So he lied again. I made a screenshot of prices and sent to him.He said that i shouldnt check after him and trust him,but he couldnt explain why his price appeared so high.He just avoided answer.
I want also add ,that during all the time we know each other,he traveled with kids almost every couple months to different countries( sending me pictures) , and again going to take them to Africa for safari in december. I do understand that such trips are not cheap of course.So I assume he has money . So the question is, what is this all about? Is it all about money, that its really expensive for him to come to meet me? Or he is just waiting for me to come to his country and knock to his door? . Cause I dont understand. Every time I ask him about all this, he swears he loves me and im the only one he wants to be with and etc. Im confused. Need your advices. what should i do?
Our relationships started almost two years ago.I am 33 years old woman and he is 39 years old man, divorced and has two kids from previous relationship. We felt closeness right from the beginning.In time he started to talk about meeting each other,and of course i didnt mind.But considering that we live far from each other it wasnt so easy. I have to notice that for him to come to my country is much easier, than for me to come to his, due to difficulties of getting visa and etc.I never insisted for him to come to my place, cause I understood its very far and might cost a lot. But we didnt give up and were waiting for a chance. And in January such chance appeared. Me and my very good friend and co worker ( girl) went for a short trip to city which was much easier and closer for him to come .I told him and he was very happy that finally it will happen. But almost couple days before trip he texted me that he cant come because of work. Of course I was upset but totally understood it. The second chance appeared in few months , but it was created one,i tried so hard to arrange it this time. We set place, time. I took a loan to have enough money to go to those city, I spent 28 hours in train to get there and again was so excited to meet him. Once or twice this time he noticed (between the lines) that so far for him to go and expensive but I worth it . I didnt pay attention to his words at those time. And right before everything was ready, and we were about to meet , we had a little fight, dont even remember what was it about, but he took it seriously and said he will not come to meet me cause i offended him or smth like that. I was devastated and shocked. I went to trip anyway , because the tickets were bought and hotel booked.After I came back home, he texted me with words how stupid he was, that he loves me so much and I have to forgive him and give him one more chance to prove his love. And I gave up and told him yes. In august we decided to try to meet again , and he swore that he will do anything this time to meet me and will not waste the chance. But I didnt believe him this time. But was curious to hear the excuses. And the next morning excuses were ready. He said he checked flights and ticket to the city we dealed to meet in( from London to Odessa (Ukraine)) costs around 2000 british pounds and of course its very expensive. And he said that it would be much easier for me to make a biometric passport ,which will allow me to go to EU and meet him there. And I said ok. But same time checked if the price he told me is real.So I just googled it and saw that prices starts from 150 british pounds.So he lied again. I made a screenshot of prices and sent to him.He said that i shouldnt check after him and trust him,but he couldnt explain why his price appeared so high.He just avoided answer.
I want also add ,that during all the time we know each other,he traveled with kids almost every couple months to different countries( sending me pictures) , and again going to take them to Africa for safari in december. I do understand that such trips are not cheap of course.So I assume he has money . So the question is, what is this all about? Is it all about money, that its really expensive for him to come to meet me? Or he is just waiting for me to come to his country and knock to his door? . Cause I dont understand. Every time I ask him about all this, he swears he loves me and im the only one he wants to be with and etc. Im confused. Need your advices. what should i do?
Pay money to get a passport, pay several hundred euros to go to somewhere in EU because you can't directly go to the UK and then be stranded there alone because he comes up with an excuse the day before. Would be fun.
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