I've been reading through so many posts and reliving all the feels that so many people here are currently going through. I can remember what it was like when I first found this site, and how helpful it was knowing that I wasn't the only one who was experiencing these feelings of uncertainty that this would ever end in my favor. I felt I had found kindred spirits, and if they were able to close the distance then I would be able to as well. I loved that there were people of all ages, not just "old" people like me in this situation.
I thought I would start a thread of success stories to give others hope who are just starting out their LDR, or even maybe give some hope to those who have been walking this road for many years. This isn't to "brag" or make you feel bad. My goal is to give someone who may be feeling down the renewed hope that dreams can and DO come true.
My brief story: Met my husband on Facebook after we were both done with marriages that had just fallen apart. I had three children, one grown and two still in middle/high school at home. He was in NY, no kids, and I was in Ga. He swore he would never move here. I told him I would never move back to NY. For YEARS I thought this would go nowhere. We had more fights and I was ready to walk away more times than I care to remember. After 18 months of me traveling to NY to see him every month, he finally realized I was the best thing in his life (his words, not mine), and he rented out his house and moved all of his stuff to Ga. One problem though....his job was still in NY. So, while he was trying to get a transfer and applying to every position that would get him to Ga, he lived with me on weekends and stayed with his mom in NY Mon-Thurs. I STILL didn't think we would end up together forever. We got married two years ago and continued to do the part time distance, and even though we were together every Friday night through Monday (or sometimes Tuesday) morning, I STILL was frustrated and bitchy and took it out on him, because it wasn't good enough. How he put up with me is beyond my comprehension. Finally, this past November, he applied into a position with his company that allowed him to work from anywhere. After weeks of waiting and multiple interviews, we found out just before Christmas that he got the job and he started it in January. We've been living together full time for five wonderful months. He now works from home, and I was laid off in Jan, so we have been together nearly every day. Happily, I start a new job on Monday, and we will be living like a normal couple....forever.
So, it took five years from start to finish, and along the way I wasn't sure it would happen, but here we are. It's been a long and bumpy road. If anyone had told me how long it would have taken I probably wouldn't have committed, but looking back, it doesn't seem like it was that long. My advice: have a plan. You make one for your career.....isn't your life even more important?
Next success story......
I thought I would start a thread of success stories to give others hope who are just starting out their LDR, or even maybe give some hope to those who have been walking this road for many years. This isn't to "brag" or make you feel bad. My goal is to give someone who may be feeling down the renewed hope that dreams can and DO come true.
My brief story: Met my husband on Facebook after we were both done with marriages that had just fallen apart. I had three children, one grown and two still in middle/high school at home. He was in NY, no kids, and I was in Ga. He swore he would never move here. I told him I would never move back to NY. For YEARS I thought this would go nowhere. We had more fights and I was ready to walk away more times than I care to remember. After 18 months of me traveling to NY to see him every month, he finally realized I was the best thing in his life (his words, not mine), and he rented out his house and moved all of his stuff to Ga. One problem though....his job was still in NY. So, while he was trying to get a transfer and applying to every position that would get him to Ga, he lived with me on weekends and stayed with his mom in NY Mon-Thurs. I STILL didn't think we would end up together forever. We got married two years ago and continued to do the part time distance, and even though we were together every Friday night through Monday (or sometimes Tuesday) morning, I STILL was frustrated and bitchy and took it out on him, because it wasn't good enough. How he put up with me is beyond my comprehension. Finally, this past November, he applied into a position with his company that allowed him to work from anywhere. After weeks of waiting and multiple interviews, we found out just before Christmas that he got the job and he started it in January. We've been living together full time for five wonderful months. He now works from home, and I was laid off in Jan, so we have been together nearly every day. Happily, I start a new job on Monday, and we will be living like a normal couple....forever.
So, it took five years from start to finish, and along the way I wasn't sure it would happen, but here we are. It's been a long and bumpy road. If anyone had told me how long it would have taken I probably wouldn't have committed, but looking back, it doesn't seem like it was that long. My advice: have a plan. You make one for your career.....isn't your life even more important?
Next success story......
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