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    Thinking ahead to closing the distance - England to US move

    I am on the staying side, if that form of the plan works as we hope. Plan is that my SO will be moving from England here to PA, USA, because I am committed to start in Fall at a university up near Pittsburgh and we both are really hoping to be living together before/by the time I graduate. Honestly, he had hoped to be here in time for me to not be in the uni dorms my second year there, but...thinking that's a bit too ambitious considering we haven't managed to even get him over for a visit yet. But...we hope. <3

    Anyway! Even though we aren't starting on the process as of yet, I can't help thinking about it and I wondered if anyone might have some input or advice or anything really on the process and experience. The immigration website is helpful and all, but like to have some thoughts and perspectives of people.
    Know all I'm saying and asking is kinda vague, but, literally just about anything relating would be helpful and appreciated - moving from any country to another.

    #2
    I will be following this thread I don't actually have any advice, because I'm in the same situation as you. My bf is from PA and I'm from Europe. We still aren't sure who's moving where though, but we have definitely started the process of thinking ahead to closing the distance. Just so confusing! I hope other ppl on here will offer you some good advice

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      #3
      I would like to help, I've moved to several foreign countries and my fiance will be moving to the US....but your post just seems so vague. Maybe if you have more specific questions people can give answers.

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        #4
        What sort of visa are you looking at to get him over here?

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          #5
          Yeah...the problem with that is it is kind of vague at this point and honestly we aren't even sure how to start with all this.

          We're not really sure what the best way to go would be - the best visa to get him over here on. He has no family here, can't see any way of him getting over through employment, and partially due to the issues with parents not being able to claim me as a dependent on their taxes if I'm married messing about with my university things K-1 is a path we'd like to avoid. If it is the only way, we both want him to get here however we can get him here and getting married is, of course, the plan for us at some point anyway. The financial uncertainty with the university thing is scary as hell for me, but I can't even think about waiting over 4 years to get him over here for good.
          So...we're trying to figure all that out but words on a webpage can only manage to frustrate us.

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            #6
            From what I can tell, there's no way you can move to the USA without getting married or having a specialist skill in short supply in the US (medical etc).

            The only way I can think of is a temporary solution - student visa if he got accepted into your school as an international student. Expensive, though.

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              #7
              I had for the most part accepted or figured that the only way to get him in to the country was through marriage, but was really trying to see if there is any other way. When it comes to it, whatever effect it may have on the cost of my schooling we can get through - we aren't waiting 4+ years. But, exploring all options.

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                #8
                Why doesn't he do the VWP (Visa Waiver Program) to start off, that way he could go see you for 3 months and you would have a chance to meet (I see you haven't met in person yet). Then he could go back home and at that point you could start figuring out the best way for him to come over more permanently.
                I know it's not really the solution you want but at least you guys would have a chance to be together for 3 months.

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                  #9
                  Originally posted by mllebamako View Post
                  Why doesn't he do the VWP (Visa Waiver Program) to start off, that way he could go see you for 3 months and you would have a chance to meet (I see you haven't met in person yet). Then he could go back home and at that point you could start figuring out the best way for him to come over more permanently.
                  I know it's not really the solution you want but at least you guys would have a chance to be together for 3 months.
                  Completely agreed. Three months together would give you both the time to know what you need to know about one another, and it's a great way to get an idea of life together. My SO came over for two months, and it was worth it.


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                    #10
                    I am planning to move to the US for a year (I am also from england). I think my plan is to try and get a 6 month tourist visa and look for a job when I am out there...If it doesn't work I've heard that you can travel back to your home country and then go back out again. But I guess this is different as we are planning to come back to the UK after a year so that I can do my masters here.

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                      #11
                      Originally posted by mllebamako View Post
                      Why doesn't he do the VWP (Visa Waiver Program) to start off, that way he could go see you for 3 months and you would have a chance to meet (I see you haven't met in person yet). Then he could go back home and at that point you could start figuring out the best way for him to come over more permanently.
                      I know it's not really the solution you want but at least you guys would have a chance to be together for 3 months.
                      I do and have liked that idea - never mentioned to him largely because I didn't know if he'd be able to get off work that long (doubtful) or be in a new job by the time he got back. But, do think we need it and will bring it up. I know that, especially if it's while I'm in classes, the single week we'd been planning for wouldn't do too much good and wouldn't give us certainty we need that we want to do this.

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                        #12
                        I see good luck with everything and your man is soo cute esp. with a british accent He might not have a problem finding a job in the states because don't forget Americans love british accents! They might want to hire him so they can hear talk all day long! He can try getting a customer service job at a call center in your area! He'll be very popular

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                          #13
                          Originally posted by FrankiexRosexNaqvi View Post
                          because I didn't know if he'd be able to get off work that long (doubtful) or be in a new job by the time he got back.
                          This is exactly the problem for my SO who is in England. He has a VERY good job in a difficult economy. So we are stuck using his vacations and mine as sparingly as possible. We are just lucky that the UK is far more generous with its standard holiday/vacation schedule. He currently works for a company that has a US branch not even an hour from where I live.. so he is working towards a transfer.. but if that doesn't work in another 2 years time.. we will start the K-1 process... which is lengthy and complicated. So it sounds like you're looking for K-1 information ?

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                            #14
                            VWP is definitly a great option - work depending of course. Also if he' coming over for a significant length of time, its helpful to have proof of finances to cover your trip, and proof that you will be returning afterwards.

                            Has your SO been a student in the last year? If so J1 is an excellent visa, that it seems not too many people know about. (For me its just a kick in the teeth as I didnt go to uni)

                            This is by far one of the most helpful websites regarding J1 visas https://www.j1jobs.com/

                            Best of luck sweetie. Fingers crossed for you both!
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                              Originally posted by London-FortCollins View Post


                              This is by far one of the most helpful websites regarding J1 visas https://www.j1jobs.com/
                              why are there no jobs for the whole of nebraska on this site?! so annoying

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