So we're now at the point in our relationship that we know for sure that we want to be together and would like to close the distance as soon as possible. The one thing holding us back is school.
I'm sure a lot of you have had the same problem. Not knowing what grad school you'll be able to get into. Not having a job or any source of income. Possibly not even knowing what kind of career you want at all. All of these problems combine to make it impossible to make any definite plans for closing the distance. What are your stories?
Here's mine:
He's an undergrad in Washington state. Still has 2.5 years left of school, and then the graduate program he wants to get into takes 8 years to complete. I live in Texas, and I recently graduated with a BA in Linguistics and Asian Cultures and Languages (Japanese) and a minor in English. I picked these majors because they were ones I was interested in and I had no idea throughout college what I wanted to do with my life. Unfortunately, they're rather useless. I don't speak Japanese well enough to get a job with it, and I learned through studying abroad that I did not enjoy living in Japan anyway. (Plus that would take me even further from my SO!)
After having a few months off of school, I've now decided that I'd like to pursue a graduate degree in Speech Pathology which would take another three years - one to get the prerequisites and another two for the MS. My parents supported me through my first 4 years of college, but as I have 3 younger sisters, they can't keep paying for me to go to school. If I applied to a school in Washington, we could end the distance this fall, but there is basically only one school close to him that has my program. What if I went there and took the prereqs, then didn't get accepted to grad school there? At that point, it would be my only option. Also, I'd be paying out-of-state tuition if I went there, which is often double the cost.
My tentative plan at the moment is to take the prereqs here in Texas (which means at least another year and half apart
), and then apply to grad schools in both Washington and Texas to see where I get accepted. If I do get accepted in Washington, we could get an apartment together while we go to school. No idea how we'll pay for it though 
If I don't get accepted in Washington, that means at least another 2.5 years apart. On top of that, we have no idea where he'll end up going to grad school after he graduates.
As for right now, I'm working on getting a part-time job here, so I can start saving as much money as I can. The whole thing is incredibly frustrating though, and having absolutely no idea what the future holds is pretty stressful for somebody that likes to know what's coming. He handles it a lot better than me because he hates planning ahead anyway :P
I'm sure a lot of you have had the same problem. Not knowing what grad school you'll be able to get into. Not having a job or any source of income. Possibly not even knowing what kind of career you want at all. All of these problems combine to make it impossible to make any definite plans for closing the distance. What are your stories?
Here's mine:
He's an undergrad in Washington state. Still has 2.5 years left of school, and then the graduate program he wants to get into takes 8 years to complete. I live in Texas, and I recently graduated with a BA in Linguistics and Asian Cultures and Languages (Japanese) and a minor in English. I picked these majors because they were ones I was interested in and I had no idea throughout college what I wanted to do with my life. Unfortunately, they're rather useless. I don't speak Japanese well enough to get a job with it, and I learned through studying abroad that I did not enjoy living in Japan anyway. (Plus that would take me even further from my SO!)
After having a few months off of school, I've now decided that I'd like to pursue a graduate degree in Speech Pathology which would take another three years - one to get the prerequisites and another two for the MS. My parents supported me through my first 4 years of college, but as I have 3 younger sisters, they can't keep paying for me to go to school. If I applied to a school in Washington, we could end the distance this fall, but there is basically only one school close to him that has my program. What if I went there and took the prereqs, then didn't get accepted to grad school there? At that point, it would be my only option. Also, I'd be paying out-of-state tuition if I went there, which is often double the cost.
My tentative plan at the moment is to take the prereqs here in Texas (which means at least another year and half apart
), and then apply to grad schools in both Washington and Texas to see where I get accepted. If I do get accepted in Washington, we could get an apartment together while we go to school. No idea how we'll pay for it though If I don't get accepted in Washington, that means at least another 2.5 years apart. On top of that, we have no idea where he'll end up going to grad school after he graduates.As for right now, I'm working on getting a part-time job here, so I can start saving as much money as I can. The whole thing is incredibly frustrating though, and having absolutely no idea what the future holds is pretty stressful for somebody that likes to know what's coming. He handles it a lot better than me because he hates planning ahead anyway :P
And for my current plan, I was worried about where I would live while I went to school in Washington (the school I'd be going to is about 100 miles from his) and he immediately suggested getting an apartment halfway in the middle (even though it would lengthen his already long commute).
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