Thoughts on closing the distance.

[itsalyssahali]

Okay, so here's the story.
My girlfriend and I are really happy together, and truly love each other.
The thing is, we both are unemployed, and can't find jobs.
We.. Have an idea to move into her God Mom's house until we can get jobs.
But that's sixteen hours away.

I'd be fine to do it, but my mother is a control freak and I'd be terrified to tell her.
So what do you think? Should we close the distance, it wouldn't be till end of January or February?
Thank ya.

[rhomy]

I'm not in your situation but I guess you first need to be financially stable.
Besides, according to your profile, you've been dating for a short time.
I would wait a little. You have all the time in the world to be together

[Zephii]

I'm never a big believer in taking advantage of someone's hospitality like that, but sixteen hours away might be more job opportunities or something. What about school though? You're 17. I don't know where you are from or what the cost of living is there but you need to look at whether working while studying is a viable option for you, assuming you are going to get a higher education of some sort.

I do think giving the relationship a bit longer to mature would be the smart thing to do. I also think not burning bridges with your mum would be smart because if the relationship falls apart (yes I know right now you probably think that's impossible, but believe me it isn't) it'll be your mum you'll need to help you pick up the pieces and get your life back on track.

Do more research before you decide wither way. It's totally doable, but make sure it is a benifit to your whole life plan, not just the relationship sector

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I'm never a big believer in taking advantage of someone's hospitality like that, but sixteen hours away might be more job opportunities or something. What about school though? You're 17. I don't know where you are from or what the cost of living is there but you need to look at whether working while studying is a viable option for you, assuming you are going to get a higher education of some sort.

I do think giving the relationship a bit longer to mature would be the smart thing to do. I also think not burning bridges with your mum would be smart because if the relationship falls apart (yes I know right now you probably think that's impossible, but believe me it isn't) it'll be your mum you'll need to help you pick up the pieces and get your life back on track.

Do more research before you decide wither way. It's totally doable, but make sure it is a benifit to your whole life plan, not just the relationship sector

[Moon]

What if you move and still can't find jobs? What does her godmother say about the two of you moving in, possibly rent-free, indefinitely?
You're still a minor and the two of you haven't been together a month yet, take some time to come up with a more sound and secure plan, get to know each other better first, then move in.

[itsalyssahali]

Thank you everyone.