I think I just need some reassurance here. I am currently 4 months into a 6 month visit with my SO, and the plan is for me to stay at least another 6 months, maybe a couple of years if we can work it out, to try and actually be in a situation where we are no longer long-distance. It's what I want, and I always knew it was a possibility, but it honestly scares the hell out of me. I don't want to go home and leave my SO, but I'm scared of leaving all that behind. I'm also worried about the legal logistics of it, and things that I would have to sort out at home like selling my car, quitting my job etc. I talked to my SO about it, and while he wasn't annoyed, he didn't seem to understand why I was so worried and upset about it. I was just trying to talk to him about it to try and ease my mind about it and while he did somewhat do that, he did it in an almost-annoyed way like it was stupid that I was upset, and I just needed some reassurance and for him to tell me he loved me and help assure me that we would work it out, but he just didn't seem to get it. He told me he was sure it would work out, but he just seemed bothered that I was upset, like it was stupid for me to be.
Maybe I'm crazy, but I just really needed the loving reassurance and I feel like he didn't understand. He knows it's got to be hard for me, but doesn't understand why I worry about it so much. I guess he's just so much more level-headed about it. I don't know how to deal with it, I don't want to bring it up again and bother him. But I feel like I'm going to be worrying about it all the time until we actually properly figure it out rather than just me telling him how I'm worrieid about it.
Anyway, that's enough ranting. Any thoughts from previous experience?
Maybe I'm crazy, but I just really needed the loving reassurance and I feel like he didn't understand. He knows it's got to be hard for me, but doesn't understand why I worry about it so much. I guess he's just so much more level-headed about it. I don't know how to deal with it, I don't want to bring it up again and bother him. But I feel like I'm going to be worrying about it all the time until we actually properly figure it out rather than just me telling him how I'm worrieid about it.
Anyway, that's enough ranting. Any thoughts from previous experience?
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