He'll be visiting from 17 March to 1 April. Our anniversary falls on the 8th, which we could have booked for, but given his brother, a 14-day stay was the maximum we could plan for and neither of us were willing to sacrifice any part of my spring break and I was not about to book his return flight during the school week - would have been miserable not being able to see him off at the airport - SO we have decided to celebrate our one year anniversary a little bit earlier.
I have literally been churning ideas over and over in my head. The one I keep coming back to is, unfortunately, a rendition of what I did for my ex. :/ I'm not sure I have issues with that or not. My ex came out for Valentine's Day and I more or less had my mother and sister help me convert my room into a "hotel room," since I could not afford a room at a hotel or a B&B. It ended up being even better than I imagined it. I did tell my partner of this ages ago, when my ex and I were still together, to which he responded by guffawing and claiming the idea a bit too "sappy" for his taste. Turns out a lot changes when your best friend becomes your girlfriend; all of a sudden those little sappy things become fun for you too.
I booked us a night at a hotel when I visited him this past summer and sent him out of the room for 20 minutes while I drew a bath and added bubbles and set the room alight with candles, and wrote him a love letter. He loved it. I'm considering repeating the "hotel room" idea when he comes out in March.
I have a scarlet red sheet set along with a comforter and matching pillow cases. I'm wanting to book my partner and I a couple's massage at a local spa, which would then be followed by an hour in a private hot tub for the both of us - water and tea included; considering having dinner beforehand (debating on whether to go nice/dressy or local/funky). Going back to the bedset I mentioned, while my partner and I were out, I would send in the troops, aka. my mother and sister, to set up the bedroom for us: make up the bed, rose petal turndown, some light fruit and chocolate and maybe something to drink, some candles and the fireplace that they would light closer to when we got home, etc. I'm loving the idea. The couple's massage + hot tub is only $180 for the both of us - an hour massage each and an hour in the hot tub which, as I mentioned, is private and outdoors if the weather is nice enough - so it's affordable, and it would be wonderful to come back to our own little "hotel." I'm simply wondering if this is a bad idea given the fact it's been done for my ex and he's aware of it? I mean he didn't mind my lighting candles at our hotel and I do remember asking him if he liked/enjoyed it, and was honest about how I was worried he wouldn't given what he said about my ex, but that was only candles and not the whole shebang. I'm currently trying to decide if the fact it was done for my ex would outweigh the surprise, or if he would love it too much to care. :/ It's not that I'm having issues coming up with ideas for our aniversary; it's that I absolutely loved what my mother and sister did - they literally went above and beyond what they had to - and it was absolutely incredible and I would love to share it with my current partner as well. I do think he would love it. I simply don't want the fact my ex had a similar surprise to detract from it, or seem like it's something that I "do" as opposed to something that's coming from me and my more creative side (as I choose all the decorations and the design of it).
Opinions?
I have literally been churning ideas over and over in my head. The one I keep coming back to is, unfortunately, a rendition of what I did for my ex. :/ I'm not sure I have issues with that or not. My ex came out for Valentine's Day and I more or less had my mother and sister help me convert my room into a "hotel room," since I could not afford a room at a hotel or a B&B. It ended up being even better than I imagined it. I did tell my partner of this ages ago, when my ex and I were still together, to which he responded by guffawing and claiming the idea a bit too "sappy" for his taste. Turns out a lot changes when your best friend becomes your girlfriend; all of a sudden those little sappy things become fun for you too.
I booked us a night at a hotel when I visited him this past summer and sent him out of the room for 20 minutes while I drew a bath and added bubbles and set the room alight with candles, and wrote him a love letter. He loved it. I'm considering repeating the "hotel room" idea when he comes out in March.I have a scarlet red sheet set along with a comforter and matching pillow cases. I'm wanting to book my partner and I a couple's massage at a local spa, which would then be followed by an hour in a private hot tub for the both of us - water and tea included; considering having dinner beforehand (debating on whether to go nice/dressy or local/funky). Going back to the bedset I mentioned, while my partner and I were out, I would send in the troops, aka. my mother and sister, to set up the bedroom for us: make up the bed, rose petal turndown, some light fruit and chocolate and maybe something to drink, some candles and the fireplace that they would light closer to when we got home, etc. I'm loving the idea. The couple's massage + hot tub is only $180 for the both of us - an hour massage each and an hour in the hot tub which, as I mentioned, is private and outdoors if the weather is nice enough - so it's affordable, and it would be wonderful to come back to our own little "hotel." I'm simply wondering if this is a bad idea given the fact it's been done for my ex and he's aware of it? I mean he didn't mind my lighting candles at our hotel and I do remember asking him if he liked/enjoyed it, and was honest about how I was worried he wouldn't given what he said about my ex, but that was only candles and not the whole shebang. I'm currently trying to decide if the fact it was done for my ex would outweigh the surprise, or if he would love it too much to care. :/ It's not that I'm having issues coming up with ideas for our aniversary; it's that I absolutely loved what my mother and sister did - they literally went above and beyond what they had to - and it was absolutely incredible and I would love to share it with my current partner as well. I do think he would love it. I simply don't want the fact my ex had a similar surprise to detract from it, or seem like it's something that I "do" as opposed to something that's coming from me and my more creative side (as I choose all the decorations and the design of it).
Opinions?
That sounds like a great idea though! I'm thinking of doing slightly similar for Valentine's Day, depending on if I can get everything ready in time...
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