Hi all,
I've only just discovered this community and I can't tell you the relief, my friends and family all think I'm nothing short of insane for my LDR..and sometimes I think they're right! What a release this is going to be!
I met my boyfriend (still doesn't sound right at 38 and 42 years of age) at work in the UK, we hated each other at first sight! Over 2 years of working together we ended up surgically attached, best friends and everything but the full blown relationship...from the day I met him I knew he was applying to transfer jobs to Australia and I was going nowhere fast with a teenager in the midst of exams. It became painful but we had to be 'grown up' about it and put our careers/children/houses/dogs first...in fact everything but ourselves.
I helped him with his visa applications, home searches, flight details etc, in fact anything to be involved and detract from how much it felt like impending doom on a daily basis. The stress got worse and we started talking openly about how we would be together if the timing was right...well it wasn’t and I put up a ridiculous act telling him I wanted him to go to fulfil his dreams – despite the fact he asked did I want him to stay, being all heroic I gave him an adamant no and smiled it was all for the best. So the dreaded day came and things got a little crazy, no sooner had he got to the departure gate that I had ‘a moment’ and blurted out “I love you”!!
Anyhow, two and a half years later and we’re still together, I’ve been to Aus twice and we’ve holidayed in Hong Kong, Malaysia, Thailand and Singapore which has been amazing but now decision time is upon us and we’re determined not to break the three year mark without making marriage plans and looking at me moving. He’s currently posted in the outback but is about to move to a coastal town where we can settle and enjoy each other at last.
Things haven’t been easy, in fact they’re a nightmare, I have an 18yr old who is determined to dislike him for no other reason than only a teenage girl can muster, his young daughter is being used by his ex (of 8yrs...not my doing!!) as emotional blackmail as she wants a work visa that she’s so not getting, my Mum totally objects to it all so is being as uncooperative as humanly possible, I’ll have to quit my career as a police officer and my 15yr old cat is giving me a headache in case she’s not fit to travel. Oh and these things are the tip of the iceberg!!!! My friends think I’m too old to be ‘messing about’ and they may very well be right.
But we’re determined, he’s worked hard in awful conditions to gain a move to where we both want and we still manage to talk every day despite shifts and the pain of a time difference which stops us doing movie nights etc. I have no doubt Ian is THE man I was always supposed to meet and I would go through the world of pain all over again so long as the outcome is us together.
If you’re still awake after that then I appreciate you listening to my tale of woe, phew....does that feel better!
I've only just discovered this community and I can't tell you the relief, my friends and family all think I'm nothing short of insane for my LDR..and sometimes I think they're right! What a release this is going to be!
I met my boyfriend (still doesn't sound right at 38 and 42 years of age) at work in the UK, we hated each other at first sight! Over 2 years of working together we ended up surgically attached, best friends and everything but the full blown relationship...from the day I met him I knew he was applying to transfer jobs to Australia and I was going nowhere fast with a teenager in the midst of exams. It became painful but we had to be 'grown up' about it and put our careers/children/houses/dogs first...in fact everything but ourselves.
I helped him with his visa applications, home searches, flight details etc, in fact anything to be involved and detract from how much it felt like impending doom on a daily basis. The stress got worse and we started talking openly about how we would be together if the timing was right...well it wasn’t and I put up a ridiculous act telling him I wanted him to go to fulfil his dreams – despite the fact he asked did I want him to stay, being all heroic I gave him an adamant no and smiled it was all for the best. So the dreaded day came and things got a little crazy, no sooner had he got to the departure gate that I had ‘a moment’ and blurted out “I love you”!!
Anyhow, two and a half years later and we’re still together, I’ve been to Aus twice and we’ve holidayed in Hong Kong, Malaysia, Thailand and Singapore which has been amazing but now decision time is upon us and we’re determined not to break the three year mark without making marriage plans and looking at me moving. He’s currently posted in the outback but is about to move to a coastal town where we can settle and enjoy each other at last.
Things haven’t been easy, in fact they’re a nightmare, I have an 18yr old who is determined to dislike him for no other reason than only a teenage girl can muster, his young daughter is being used by his ex (of 8yrs...not my doing!!) as emotional blackmail as she wants a work visa that she’s so not getting, my Mum totally objects to it all so is being as uncooperative as humanly possible, I’ll have to quit my career as a police officer and my 15yr old cat is giving me a headache in case she’s not fit to travel. Oh and these things are the tip of the iceberg!!!! My friends think I’m too old to be ‘messing about’ and they may very well be right.
But we’re determined, he’s worked hard in awful conditions to gain a move to where we both want and we still manage to talk every day despite shifts and the pain of a time difference which stops us doing movie nights etc. I have no doubt Ian is THE man I was always supposed to meet and I would go through the world of pain all over again so long as the outcome is us together.
If you’re still awake after that then I appreciate you listening to my tale of woe, phew....does that feel better!
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