Still learning to love from a distance

[sarahmarie]

Hey everyone,

My name is Sarah and I have been with my SO (Cody)for almost a year. We are about 3000 miles apart, as he lives in the Bering Straight in Alaska and I live in Northeast Georgia. In out year together we have spent more time apart than together. It was a hard adjustment at first (which we have all faced) but I am begining to learn how to love him from a distance. We spent the most AMAZING summer together never leaving each others sides, so I was sad when he had to leave again in the first part of this month. Things are going very well, but sometimes communications are tough as the reception where he lives is not always the best. I am very excited to say that I am planning on spending November 18th through December 1st in Alaska with him.

I would love any advice or suggestions that any of you veteran LFAD folks have on life, love, learning to love from a distance, or anything else you have to offer me. I have really enjoyed this site so far and I have already learned so much from everyone that posts regularly.

Sarah

[alise120]

[archangel]

Welcome to LFAD Sarah!!

[LadyMarchHare]

Welcome to the forum! My name's Sara as well.

The advice here is great and the people are very friendly. Feel free to ask away or paw through threads and see if you can relate and what's been said. And I hope you have an awesome time in Alaska.

[Silviar]

Welcome to the forums, Sarah. You'll find a lot of kindred spirits here on the time apart versus time together.

Can I say that the 2 weeks together sounds absolutely thrilling, though, and I'm a little jealous - Alaska is supposed to be beautiful! I hope you take lots of photos, especially photos of you together - those help a lot, and are useful for gifts down the road. Make some blog posts so you can share.

Hmm, advice... Well, I've been together with my boyfriend about as long (1 year next month), so I don't know if I count as a veteran, but one of the best lessons I've learned is to give extra room for understanding. The distance makes it easy to misinterpret things when you're lonely, depressed, missing them like crazy. Things that would be easy for you when together get muddied.

Anywho, I hope you enjoy your time around here. Don't be afraid to hop in.

[sarahmarie]

That is such great advice. I often forget to leave that little bit of extra room. You have really made me think! Thanks!!

[noodle]

Welcome on here!

[Rhiavaan]

Welcome to the family my dear ^_^

[Čternity]

Welcome. Lots of great people, ideas, support and encouragement here.

[XX, Lexi]

Welcome!
All I can really offer is to talk to him whenever you feel insecure or sad or are just missing him. Chances are, he's missing you too!
I hope you find GREAT advice here =]

[paulawriteslove]

Welcome to the forum!

[Karringtyn]

Welcome!!!! Always keep the lines of communication open. Trust is a huge thing....and if something is bothering me..I really try to open up and talk about it and not let it fester inside...

[Tanja]

Welcome to LFAD Sarah

I would say trust and communication are the key factors in making an LDR work... Sometimes things will feel unbearable but those moments will pass so don't let them get to you too much. You've found someone you love and who loves you back, that alone is amazing and rare so don't give it up even when things get rough!

We're here for you in good times and in bad