Hi,
I'm new to LDR's and generally discussing my issues on the internet, but with this I felt the need to try anything I can to make the best of my new situation. I live in New Zealand where I am studying for a PhD, originally from England where all my friends and family are, and also now where my relatively new partner lives too.
My fella and I have been friends for a long time but one or the other has always been in a relationship or moving to different cities etc. It wasn't until he decided to do a big round the world trip and came to visit that we realised how much we liked each other. He obviously left after a few weeks to continue his journey/return home to England and we talked none stop. A month and a half later I had to return to England for visiting family and some conferences and we ended up discovering what we had been missing out on all these years! I left England at the beginning of November to return here and now find myself in a situation I've avoided like the plague in every relationship I've ever been in: long distance. There is an end in sight though! He has decided to move over here come February, I know in comparison that makes me nowhere near the level of strain you guys go through but the complete opposite ends of the world part is the biggest hurdle to get over with mine, 11400 miles is a LOOONG way.
I come to the forum in hope to find some tips, maybe learn if my strange alone in the dark worries are normal and to hopefully gain some positivity towards the coming few months while I try to cope with the holidays alone from everyone I know and the big workload I will experience during this time.
Anyone in the same sort of boat please hit me up as I'm great at being an agony aunt not so great at taking my own advice though
Thanks
I'm new to LDR's and generally discussing my issues on the internet, but with this I felt the need to try anything I can to make the best of my new situation. I live in New Zealand where I am studying for a PhD, originally from England where all my friends and family are, and also now where my relatively new partner lives too.
My fella and I have been friends for a long time but one or the other has always been in a relationship or moving to different cities etc. It wasn't until he decided to do a big round the world trip and came to visit that we realised how much we liked each other. He obviously left after a few weeks to continue his journey/return home to England and we talked none stop. A month and a half later I had to return to England for visiting family and some conferences and we ended up discovering what we had been missing out on all these years! I left England at the beginning of November to return here and now find myself in a situation I've avoided like the plague in every relationship I've ever been in: long distance. There is an end in sight though! He has decided to move over here come February, I know in comparison that makes me nowhere near the level of strain you guys go through but the complete opposite ends of the world part is the biggest hurdle to get over with mine, 11400 miles is a LOOONG way.
I come to the forum in hope to find some tips, maybe learn if my strange alone in the dark worries are normal and to hopefully gain some positivity towards the coming few months while I try to cope with the holidays alone from everyone I know and the big workload I will experience during this time.
Anyone in the same sort of boat please hit me up as I'm great at being an agony aunt not so great at taking my own advice though
Thanks
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