Hey Gang,
I've been a member since October or November. I met my French boy in Boca (March 2010) while he was interning at my university. His next internship was in Italy so he invited me. I jumped at the opportunity with open arms. A chance to travel and possibly solidify an amazing relationship?? Yes, please. I've been back in the States since late December and enjoying the time with friends and family. Some days are unbearable. Others are much easier. But I've learned 3 things:
1. Trust the one you're with and let them live their life away from you. Everyone wants to go out and have a good time. You can't fault your love for grabbing a beer at a bar or club with friends. I even think flirting and meeting new people is good. I remember an older woman on a plane told me this once and I was horrified, but I get it now. Flirting builds your own confidence and, in my own case, reminds me of how amazing my own guy is. Granted, there's an appropriate way to flirt and boundaries, but, overall, I think it's healthy. Bugging your love about what they're doing with whom will only push them away. Use your brain, though. If something walks and talks like a cheat, put on your boot and exert a good kick.
2. Focus on your own life. Yes, we're separated and I would love to be doing fun things with him, but just because we're 5,000 miles apart doesn't mean I have to wait to do those things. Because of this, I've planned two trips with friends and am going to several shows and festivals in the next few months.
3. Look toward the future with your love. I get to see my Frenchie in a month and am elated. He'll graduate in July and move here soon after, allowing us to officially start our life together. This plan has eased the fear of "what if?" Granted, life isn't predictable and things don't always happen as planned, but without some idea of your future together, what's the point of long distance??
Every relationship is different, but these simple things have helped me immensely. I look forward to meeting you all and wish you nothing but the best
Chrissy
I've been a member since October or November. I met my French boy in Boca (March 2010) while he was interning at my university. His next internship was in Italy so he invited me. I jumped at the opportunity with open arms. A chance to travel and possibly solidify an amazing relationship?? Yes, please. I've been back in the States since late December and enjoying the time with friends and family. Some days are unbearable. Others are much easier. But I've learned 3 things:
1. Trust the one you're with and let them live their life away from you. Everyone wants to go out and have a good time. You can't fault your love for grabbing a beer at a bar or club with friends. I even think flirting and meeting new people is good. I remember an older woman on a plane told me this once and I was horrified, but I get it now. Flirting builds your own confidence and, in my own case, reminds me of how amazing my own guy is. Granted, there's an appropriate way to flirt and boundaries, but, overall, I think it's healthy. Bugging your love about what they're doing with whom will only push them away. Use your brain, though. If something walks and talks like a cheat, put on your boot and exert a good kick.
2. Focus on your own life. Yes, we're separated and I would love to be doing fun things with him, but just because we're 5,000 miles apart doesn't mean I have to wait to do those things. Because of this, I've planned two trips with friends and am going to several shows and festivals in the next few months.
3. Look toward the future with your love. I get to see my Frenchie in a month and am elated. He'll graduate in July and move here soon after, allowing us to officially start our life together. This plan has eased the fear of "what if?" Granted, life isn't predictable and things don't always happen as planned, but without some idea of your future together, what's the point of long distance??
Every relationship is different, but these simple things have helped me immensely. I look forward to meeting you all and wish you nothing but the best
Chrissy
) love the story and the tips and couldnt agree more with them my SO and I live very productive and social lives outside of our relationship 
Great story!
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