What do you consider a LDR?

[Reuschel]

How do you classify LDRs? Does there have to be a set distance (miles, km, hours)? Does there have to be a set amount of time someone can see their SO in a year? Is there anything that solidifies LDR over CD in your mind? I'm just curious.

[Snap]

I'm unable to visit him whenever I want due to location.

That's my definition. I don't have a set distance or time or anything. If I had a bad day at work and wanted a hug from him but couldn't drive to his place, get a hug, and then drive back to my place, then that's LDR for me.

[AEAS]

Iunno... To me it sorta feels like.. Maybe 2+ hours? But putting a specific time or distance seems weird... Usually in the back of my mind I think of it as someone outside of your city...

[Bobbiejeanne]

I'm unable to visit him whenever I want due to location.

This.

I've had relationships where they're about 15 minutes away.... and while to some that might have been "long" it's still CD. I can still see him once a week.
If I saw my SO once a week now... well, let's just say I'd have to be a billionaire!

[Sora1101]

Hmm...being far enough away from your SO that you can't see them when you want but not because you just can't get down there, it has to be far enough away to where even if you could hop in a car it would take more than a couple hours drive.

[Bethypoo]

Everyone basically said what I am thinking. If you are not able to see your SO when you want that is a LDR. "Normal" is being able to see them just about everyday and being close enough to be there when you need them. In an LDR you dont have that and that is what defines it. And obviously for this to be happening there has to be some actual physical distance.

[elizabethjp2010]

if you are far enough that you cant see each other often.....

our distance isnt created by the space between us as how often we can see each other.

[Jgui]

I think LDR is when you can't see that person when you want to. Someone who is far enough that it'll take few hours of driving to get to.

[Haley53]

I'm odd. I don't really consider a relationship between the bay area and, say, LA area (8-9 hours drive) long-distance. I consider long-distance anything where you're not living in the same state or country as your partner. However, that's me. I would overall agree with the general consensus that it's not being able to see your partner whenever you want that it constitutes as LD, even if it is "only" 8-9 hours. :P

[Sunbeam]

I'm odd. I don't really consider a relationship between the bay area and, say, LA area (8-9 hours drive) long-distance. I consider long-distance anything where you're not living in the same state or country as your partner. However, that's me. I would overall agree with the general consensus that it's not being able to see your partner whenever you want that it constitutes as LD, even if it is "only" 8-9 hours. :P

Because of my relationship, I have this mindset.
However, I do try to be a little more rational and call an LDR whenever you can't go out with your partner on a whim because of travel.
However, my friend is in a relationship with a guy who lives 45 mins-1 hour away and likes to call that LD. I don't necessarily agree.

[Haley53]

Because of my relationship, I have this mindset.
However, I do try to be a little more rational and call an LDR whenever you can't go out with your partner on a whim because of travel.
However, my friend is in a relationship with a guy who lives 45 mins-1 hour away and likes to call that LD. I don't necessarily agree.

Both my relationships have been international, so I understand. It's not that I feel superior to people in a next-city-over relationship or that I feel my relationship is any more difficult than theirs, I simply don't see them facing the same hardships that I do in my LDR because he's in Dublin and I'm in California. It's possible, though, that that's because I'd have the means of travelling 45min-1hr away whereas it's harder to find the time, ability, and finances to cover a 14-18 hour transatlantic trip?

[Trethsparr]

I'm unable to visit him whenever I want due to location.

That's my definition. I don't have a set distance or time or anything. If I had a bad day at work and wanted a hug from him but couldn't drive to his place, get a hug, and then drive back to my place, then that's LDR for me.

That sounds about right.

[LilyChiba]

I don't really see anything under a sort of 6 hour drive as LDR. Because you could still see each other weekly with that kind of time. It'd be exhausting, but yeah. If I was to use time to describe it, it would be anyone who has to wait more than one month to see them, though be it for short periods. I agree with Eclaire though. Some of the people that have in country relationships do not face the same sort of hardships as international. Both are equally hard and painful, but closing the distance becomes a lot harder when you have to move to a different country.

[Moon]

If I I have to fly, or it's more than a 4 hour drive, to me it's long distance. If I could pull off every weekend, for me I'd consider it close distance.

[amartnotkmart]

I consider the fact that, when I'm at school in California, we're LD, even though it's only 100 miles. We can't see each other every weekend, we're lucky for once a month. I can't see him when I want to.