Brief background: We've been dating over a year, started off as CD and we've been LD for about 7 months now. We're usually able to see each other twice a month.
My boyfriend has been in a few relationships in the past before me. They all started as CD but all of them eventually became LD. The distances ranged from 300 miles to over 5000 miles. He said that in each relationship, they broke up when it turned into a LDR. He said that they broke up on good terms, which is true because he still remains in touch with them a few times a year. He told me that the only reason why they ended up breaking up is because they most likely would never live in the same city again.
Okay...
So where does that leave me? Right now we don't have a concrete end point. I know that it's going to involve me moving, which I'm fine with, but it will involve finding a new job and that will be tricky. The earliest we could probably reunite is 1.5 years from now. But there's no guarantee, and that's why I'm confused. If he broke up with the other girls because they probably would never be able to close the distance, then I don't understand why he is still with me. There's a possibility that we might not end up in the same city. Of course there's the possibility that we will be able to close the distance. But he could have closed the distance with the other girls even if his chances were lower. Could it be because we're able to see each other often? Or do you think maybe there was more to the break ups that he isn't telling me? I know for a fact that he's still friends with all of them but maybe he or she didn't care enough to try a LDR? I don't know, I'm so confused.
He was very pessimistic when we found out that we were going to be in a LDR and I guess it was because of his previous relationships...
Anyway, any comments or advice?
My boyfriend has been in a few relationships in the past before me. They all started as CD but all of them eventually became LD. The distances ranged from 300 miles to over 5000 miles. He said that in each relationship, they broke up when it turned into a LDR. He said that they broke up on good terms, which is true because he still remains in touch with them a few times a year. He told me that the only reason why they ended up breaking up is because they most likely would never live in the same city again.
Okay...
So where does that leave me? Right now we don't have a concrete end point. I know that it's going to involve me moving, which I'm fine with, but it will involve finding a new job and that will be tricky. The earliest we could probably reunite is 1.5 years from now. But there's no guarantee, and that's why I'm confused. If he broke up with the other girls because they probably would never be able to close the distance, then I don't understand why he is still with me. There's a possibility that we might not end up in the same city. Of course there's the possibility that we will be able to close the distance. But he could have closed the distance with the other girls even if his chances were lower. Could it be because we're able to see each other often? Or do you think maybe there was more to the break ups that he isn't telling me? I know for a fact that he's still friends with all of them but maybe he or she didn't care enough to try a LDR? I don't know, I'm so confused.
He was very pessimistic when we found out that we were going to be in a LDR and I guess it was because of his previous relationships...
Anyway, any comments or advice?
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