I have been living on the other side of the country from my two oldest and best friends, and numerous other close ones, for more than five years.
I don't call as often as I should, but I think about and talk about them all the time, always call and send gifts for their birthdays or to cheer them up when things are hard or just randomly to give them a nice surprise, and follow them closely on FB (and phone immediately if I see something that worries me, like a particularly unhappy status). Even if we don't talk every week, we're still as tight as peas in a pod, and whenever we do see each other, it's still easy and natural and joyous - nothing has changed. Perhaps it is insecure of me to take a little comfort in the fact that, despite the fact they have both made new close friends since I moved away, neither of them has ever found anyone to replace me as their best friend. I certainly haven't replaced them, either.
I actually said to one of them, just a couple of days ago, "You give me faith for my ability to maintain an LDR, because the one I have with you is wildly successful." ;-)
Not the same situation, I know - frankly, if I went a couple of months without phoning my beau, that would seem outright cruel and nasty, and I'd half-expect to be dropped for it - but still, it's nice to have that reassurance that absence really doesn't automatically erode bonds in every case.
I don't call as often as I should, but I think about and talk about them all the time, always call and send gifts for their birthdays or to cheer them up when things are hard or just randomly to give them a nice surprise, and follow them closely on FB (and phone immediately if I see something that worries me, like a particularly unhappy status). Even if we don't talk every week, we're still as tight as peas in a pod, and whenever we do see each other, it's still easy and natural and joyous - nothing has changed. Perhaps it is insecure of me to take a little comfort in the fact that, despite the fact they have both made new close friends since I moved away, neither of them has ever found anyone to replace me as their best friend. I certainly haven't replaced them, either.
I actually said to one of them, just a couple of days ago, "You give me faith for my ability to maintain an LDR, because the one I have with you is wildly successful." ;-)
Not the same situation, I know - frankly, if I went a couple of months without phoning my beau, that would seem outright cruel and nasty, and I'd half-expect to be dropped for it - but still, it's nice to have that reassurance that absence really doesn't automatically erode bonds in every case.
Comment