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    The dreamer and the realist

    I was watching Modern Family () yesterday and in the episode every one of the couples had a dreamer and a realist. Which got me to thinking about couples I know in real life, and in every one there is a dreamer and there is a realist.

    So which one are you? Which one is your SO?

    I'm definitely the dreamer. My SO is the realist. (though he says he has realistic dreams... like fixing the blinds jaja!)

    #2
    I'm definitely the dreamer.
    My SO is such a realist *rolls eyes* lol but I love him.

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      #3
      Oh thats a tough one! I think I have more of an idealistic expectation of how I want our lives to pan out. Like how we'll close the distance, where we'll live and all the traveling we'll do. He on the other hand is more concerned about advancing his career and when I suggest a romp in the field under the stars or while in a change room (jokingly....for the most part) he never just entertains me with an ok, its always 'I don't want to lose my job' So I'd say he's the more realistic one.

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        #4
        I <3 Modern Family.

        We're each a bit of both. We both dream big, but both tend to rein it in with logic. It's one of the ways we're super compatible. Just entering into this LDR is an example of how we both think -- neither of us wanted to rush into this relationship because we both know it's going to be so hard. But in the end, we have to pursue it because we both imagine the love we have makes the hard parts worth it. We're hopeless romantic about each other, but we understand the realities of how hard our situation is.

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          #5
          Originally posted by Sunbeam View Post
          My SO is such a realist *rolls eyes* lol but I love him.
          Haha! My SO is the same way... I on the other hand is kind of a mixtures of both

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            #6
            Kind of both.

            I am a realist and know that if I want something to make it happen. But i also am a dream about all of the "what if" and "what could be". My SO is defiantly a dreamer though.
            Got together Jan 3, 2011~ Closed the Distance March 23, 2012~ Living Together Since June 19 2012~ Future TBD......

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              #7
              We are also a mix
              I am probably more of a dreamer and he is more of a realist, but we both have dreamer and realist qualities. We often will idealize together and reign it in with logic, but I definitely dream more than he does...


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                #8
                My SO is the dreamer in our relationship. He has a dream area to live and all these dream businesses. I just want to have a job that pays the bills and live in a nice house
                "We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love " ~ Theodore Seuss Geisel.

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                  #9
                  hmmm I would say he's more realistic. Like i sometimes have wishful dreams or i don't want to say fairytale ideal, but sometimes I don't want to know the reality, and hes realistic and says it how it is lol. It's a good balance though between us. He's a dreamer to except... well his dreams then become reality lol
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                    #10
                    Well it depends on what you mean by dreamer/realist. I think when it comes to ambitions, we're both dreamers in the sense neither one of us outgrew our childhood faith that we can be whatever we want to be; however, we're realists in the sense we logically approach/pursue those goals in order to make our dreams a reality. When it comes to the relationship, I'm more of the realist/pessimist, even, whereas he tends to be more of the dreamer; I'm more uptight and nervous and wanting of a plan and he's more relaxed about letting things play out and that things would/will work out.
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                      #11
                      I am the dreamer!!! No doubts. but he is a little bit too...

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                        #12
                        I'm kind of both, only a realist when I have to be but my SO is a total dreamer, he even told me once we close the distance I'll be in charge of all the planning etc because he never makes plans and is horrible with money so if we wanna survive he'll hafta listen to me for once :P

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                          #13
                          DREAMER!!!!

                          he is the realist

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                            #14
                            I am FO SHO the dreamer hehe.

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                              #15
                              I'm defiantly more the realist than my SO, he's totally the dreamer.

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