Okay, so it's been a few weeks since I've last seen my boyfriend. He's been working on this project, paper, and a presentation that's due tomorrow so needless to say he's been very busy. Fortunately we've been able to talk on the phone every night and everything for the most part seems to be okay... But I'm getting this deep gut feeling that he's having doubts about our relationship. I think what's spurring this is that we haven't set up a time for our next visit. We usually almost always have a set date in mind. Yesterday on the phone, I asked him if he was going to be busy next week so I could visit him. Maybe there was a lot of pessimism in my voice (because I'm worried that he's losing interest) because I prefaced my question with "Well it's probably too early for you to tell if you're going to be busy." Ugh. This has been happening a lot recently. I've been having so much fear and pessimism that it slips out in our conversations like that.
I'm trying my hardest to be rational and logical about this situation. I can't find any concrete evidence that he is losing interest. I mean I should be flattered that he takes time each night to talk to me on the phone because he doesn't even do that for his friends. But it's just this gut feeling, you know? I can't explain it. It just feels like something isn't right.
My therapist in the past told me to always think about these sort of things before I bring them up to my SO because I have a huge tendency to create problems in my head that aren't really there. I have imagined and created so many "problems" throughout this relationship and I need to stop. I can't tell you how many times I've imagined that I thought he was losing interest by jumping to crazy conclusions. But I'm really worried that he's starting to pick up on this and it's instilling doubt in him.
I just don't know what to do.
I'm trying my hardest to be rational and logical about this situation. I can't find any concrete evidence that he is losing interest. I mean I should be flattered that he takes time each night to talk to me on the phone because he doesn't even do that for his friends. But it's just this gut feeling, you know? I can't explain it. It just feels like something isn't right.
My therapist in the past told me to always think about these sort of things before I bring them up to my SO because I have a huge tendency to create problems in my head that aren't really there. I have imagined and created so many "problems" throughout this relationship and I need to stop. I can't tell you how many times I've imagined that I thought he was losing interest by jumping to crazy conclusions. But I'm really worried that he's starting to pick up on this and it's instilling doubt in him.
I just don't know what to do.
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