Add me to the break up list.

[Snap]

Well, at first I was going to say that I was 100% blindsided but in reality my instincts proved true. He told me today that he doesn't love me and broke up with me. I'm not surprised but at the same time I'm devastated. I built my life around this guy. I loved him so much and now he waits to break up with me. He said that he's known for a while but he wanted to make absolute sure. Then he said that he wanted to wait because there was a lot of stressful stuff going on in my life but he didn't want to add to it. F*ck that. God, I am so angry, so sad, so devastated. I really loved him. I know this speaks volumes of him that he waited so long and didn't even want to discuss it.

I hate this...

[Alemap]

I'm sorry, Snap.
Is there anything you need to hear, right now? Anything you just want someone to say, that would help at all?

[Lissy]

Oh, wow. So sorry to hear this. You'll find someone deserving of you, who is just as deeply in love with you as you are with them. Please take care of yourself. We're all here for you.

[LuvSsw]

Snap...I am so sorry. You know that I can relate yeah? It sucks, it really does. And it HURTS. And everyone here was/is so right when they told me that you HAVE to go through those feelings...and it's hard. Let us here at the forum surround you with our love and friendship as you move through this. It is what has helped me immensely...even if i didn't know that it was helping. I know you are probably feeling like all the effort you put into the LDR was pointless . Don't doubt yourself. When we love someone we put our all into it..everytime. I am so very here for you if you need me ok? Message me anytime.
~HUGZ~

[Pineapplebun]

I'm terribly sorry that you're going through this. I kind of understand where he is coming from with regards to waiting since you were going through a tough time, but I also feel like if I were in your position I'd feel like he is stringing me along. And actually, I've been in your position where there was no discussion before delivering the news and to me, I was pretty baffled, shocked, sad and definitely angry. To me if someone truly cares and values the relationship and loves the person, they would want to talk it out and try to resolve any issues. I believe it is a responsibility of both partners to do that, and is unfair to not give a chance to bring about any needed changes. So yes it does speak volumes about him for not even discussing it.

I wish you all the best. It'll be hard but you'll definitely be okay and I agree with the above posters.

[archangel]

*hugs* sorry to hear Snap.

[Mara]

I'm so sorry. I'm actually surprised to read this. I thought that maybe he didn't feel as strongly as you, but I didn't think he would go so far as to break up with you. It's better though that now you know and you can begin to heal and move on. *hugs*

[Jgui]

I'm so sorry to hear stay strong

[elizabethjp2010]

im sorry, sometimes you have to kiss alot of frogs to find a prince

[Snap]

I really don't know what it is that I want to hear. I feel so overwhelmed right now. I remember when I broke up with my previous boyfriend and all of the pain I went through months and months after that....I'm really not looking forward to that again. All I want is a quick fix but I know that's impossible. I hate being single. I hate knowing that I have to start allllll over again.

I really thought he was better than this. It devastates me to realize that he wasn't. I just got off the phone with one of my friends and she said that although he truly was busy with school/work, she said that it did appear that I was putting more effort into the relationship than he was. God, I can't believe I let that happen again. I would have thought I would have learned from my previous relationship. I guess not.

I was doing what I usually do after a breakup and throw stuff of his away or anything that really reminds me of him that I can do without. I actually only had a few things... This may sound weird, and it probably is very weird actually, but we didn't even have a picture of us together even after dating for over a year. So I didn't even have to worry about deciding what to do with pictures. Maybe that should have been a sign that something was wrong.

Sorry for my rambles and disorganization...I'm just so overwhelmed right now...

[ioanna]

i'm sorry you're going through this i hope the frogs comment made you laugh, even if it's just for a little bit! i find it so much better than the fishes in the sea one

[Engel]

I am so sorry for this, dear. there seem to be many break ups when the holidays are approaching. that is sad.


I hope you feel better soon, and stay in the forum, if you feel confortable with that.

xo

[Haley53]

I'm so, so sorry. Regardless of their reasoning, it is intensely painful to hear that it's something they've been sitting on and haven't even been honest with you about it; it's worse when through your gut feelings, you sit there rationalising and listing the reasons it would - could - never happen. I suppose a part of you ends up feeling stupid, on top of feeling angry, hurt, betrayed... The roller coaster of emotions is absolutely unimaginable and to a degree, it almost feels unbearable. :/ There are questions and statements and everything crashing around and hurling one on top of the other, and it hurts, and I have been here. If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me. Hang in there. I'm sorry to hear this happened. <3

[squirrelz15]

You can ramble on here as much as you want, talking sometimes helps heal the pain a little. As hard as it is, try not to blame yourself. You didn't do anything wrong. I'm sorry for what you're going through. We're all here for you.

[greensweatergirl]

Really sorry to hear this .