He drives me crazy!

[lucybelle]

I was talking to my friend yesterday who recently moved in with her boyfriend (who I don't like at all and have told her so... but that's neither here nor there...) It's the first time she's lived with a boyfriend before, and I asked her how it was going. She says "well he drives me crazy, but I guess that's just how it is."

Is it how it is? I don't think I've ever thought that about my SO. Seeing him when he gets home is the best part of my day. We haven't been living together for too long, but much longer than my friend and her boyfriend. Sure, when my SO leaves the sponge soaking in stinky water I grumble, but it doesn't make me crazy.

So does your SO drive you crazy? Is that just something to accept? Because I don't think it is.

(But then again, I really dislike this dude and know she could do better... Perhaps I'm planning sabotage...)

[DemonxOisin]

Hmm. Did she mean it seriously? Because after I lived with Miguel, I would tell people he drove ME crazy, but (in my mind) in a loving, teasing, I´ll-throw-my-sponge-at-you-the-next-time-you-criticize-how-I-do-dishes kind of way :P My favourite part of the day was still when he came home from work. Is she actually really irritated by him

Jeje, if he´s really so bad for her, then good luck with the sabotaging? :P

PS. Yes, I´m the one who leaves the sponge lying around in our relationship...

[snow_girl]

Sure sometimes he drives me a bit nuts, but definitely not all the time. I don't think I could put up living with someone who constantly got on my nerves.

[Haley53]

I've never lived with a partner for more than a month, but I can say there's a significant difference between my current partner and my ex. With my ex? When I said he drove me crazy, I meant it. :P But I thought that's the way things were and the way things were supposed to be. My mother had warned me that we were going to argue in such cramped quarters, and so when we argued, well, it didn't matter that we argued almost daily the entire time I was there, I had it set in my mind that that's what happens between two people who live together who aren't used to it. :P Wasn't until I spent a month with my current partner and we argued once that I realised what I had with my ex really was unhealthy. So unless she was kidding around, no, I don't necessarily think that it's typical beyond the little things, like you mentioned.

[Zapookie]

When my SO lived with me.. it was awesome. We'd take turns cooking. We knew each other's personal space, although we didn't really care because we always wanted to be around each other. We barely fought and if we did it was resolved pretty quickly.

I think when a couple fights ilke crazy when they live together, it just shows how incompatible they are.

[Dziubka]

No. I'm a really easy person to live with and I don't have a lot of demands.

I shared a 15m²-place (if that much!) with my ex for half a year and we were fine. Same with my boyfriend, even when we spend weeks at time together (and we both don't have a lot of space), we don't drive each other crazy.
Of course, we both do things that irritate the other, but that are definitely things we can easily deal with.

It's possible that "he drives me crazy" means something else to her, than it does to you. I don't throw things like that around lightly, because I think they can be quite hurtful for the partner. But I know people who mock-complain about their partners all the time *shrug*

[nicole]

No not at all. We get along really well actually, I cook, both take equal responsibility of most of the chores, neither of us have particularly dirty/bad habits... I'd say we get messy around each other, but we've equated that to being on visits- we'd rather be spending time together then picking up the clothes off the floor etc when we were living together for a few months, we weren't as messy.

One thing which will probably "drive me crazy" in the future is that I am usually a very independent person and I need my "alone" time, as in No-one in the room at all; I could be doing nothing at all or just reading a book etc, but I NEED that time just to take myself out of the world and be alone... well my SO now considers "alone" time being us two in the same room, doing our own thing. When I go and sit in the other room, I sit and wait a few minutes, then low and behold he will pad in and sit down quietly just so we are in the same room. Which is sweet and cute now. But I can tell it will grate if I'm not allowed 1/2 an hour just to sit by myself every once and a while

[kiara_silver]

Well we didn't officially live together, but we spent about a month together living in hotels. And it was just easy and amazing. Sure he drove me crazy when he scared me or teased me, but it was in a good way. A Gosh you make me crazy, but then go kiss him kind of way lol. I think some couples fight and some don't. I've seen couples who drive themselves crazy but love each other deeply. And then some who fit better. I think it just depends on the people, what works for them and how strong there level of commitment is.

[Jgui]

My ex and I lived together for 5 years and when you've been with a person for that long and see each other daily, yes, he does drives me crazy sometimes. But to me it was all figure of speech. I love seeing him daily and cuddling with him in bed but there are things he does around the house which drove me nuts!

With my current SO I stay with him few times a month and he still manages to drive me bananas from time to time. Nonetheless I don't say he drives me crazy literally.

[MadMolly]

I lived with my slobby disgusting annoying ex for 2 years. He drove me up the wall on a daily basis. I loved him, but damn he was impossible to live with.

[Rach321]

There are things we've needed to negotiate, like him putting empty wrappers and food scraps in the sink along with the dirty dishes before they are washed. YUCK! I could not for the life of me understand why you wouldn't just go ahead and put the trash in the trash bin.

In return for no more trash in the sink, I agreed to be more careful about leaving my shoes in every room of the house. Compromises are normal, but driving each other crazy is definitely not!

[lucybelle]

There are things we've needed to negotiate, like him putting empty wrappers and food scraps in the sink along with the dirty dishes before they are washed. YUCK! I could not for the life of me understand why you wouldn't just go ahead and put the trash in the trash bin.

My SO does the same thing!! He peels veggies and the peels go in the sink, when he unwraps something, wrapper goes in the sink. I don't get it at all. By the time dinner is done, the sink is more full of random crap than it is dishes. But, he's pretty good about cleaning it out so I can do the dishes.

[efish1042]

Well as far as hygiene goes, we are both pretty neat. Not neat freaks, but not messy and what bothers me typically bothers him or vice versa. However, when he gets stressed with school and work and everything, he does sometimes forget to shower and I have to tell him to go shower.
Other than that, not really. He drives me crazy in other ways...

[uniquefem]

heheh i don't live with my SO.. but when i spent 10 days with him--yes thats not very long time; there are things that i would say he drive me crazy hahaha but i could compromise it!

Its just things like.. he is super clean person... so he want all the veggies etc washed 3-4 times.. for me.. i just did twice as i dont want to ruin the veggies... same with rice.. at home we didnt wash it more than twice as there are vitamins on the rice skin that we need.. haha but he think its gross its just like that... but he eat what i cook anyway... and plus he don't really know how to cook rice! and another thing... in Indonesia we are use to not use sandals/shoes inside the home.. but he of course different.. and it seemed that i irritate him so much when i walk around his apartment barefoot! hahaha...

But its just small things that we could compromise... i would say he drive me crazy but hehe just the way he is!

[11MikesGirl21]

My grandmother who has been married to my grandfather for 50+ years and have spent their entire married life in the same house and have never moved, they also never lived together before they got married (They did the long distance thing too for a while) always told me that, "It's fine if he annoys you from time to time and if you bicker--you're golden. But you should never hate him for simply walking into a room. Then you have a problem. If you hate him for walking in, walk out and cool off. If you find you can't, FIX the problem."

I'd say that's pretty spot on advice.