Does one of you do more of the traveling?

[Bethypoo]

I am defiantly the one who does more traveling. But it isnt like he never wants to come.

He lives in my home town and I am away at college. Therefore, my dad misses me and therefore flies me home every other month or so. So it just works out that my SO is where i am going to be anyway. But he does make trips up here though.

[Ms.Justine]

My SO is in the military so naturally he does more traveling. I get jealous sometimes but it's a great opportunity for him.

[bluishskin]

My SO does all the travelling so far. He has visited me 3 times and he's coming again next Saturday, whilst I haven't been able to visit him. For my case it's more into cultural stuff but finance is also an issue for me. For the cultural part, it's because that I'm not allowed to go there by myself as we are not married yet. Basically I need a chaperone, and so far only my brother is the right person to do that. Unfortunately at the moment my brother and I don't really have the money to go there. I think once my SO has offered to pay some expenses for my trip but I refused since money can be a sensitive issue if we're not careful at handling it.
He obviously doesn't mind doing the travelling. He's gonna have a discussion with my family about a lot of things and I hope there will be solution for this which is pretty much one of the biggest things that we're having at the moment.

[efish1042]

My SO does most of the travelling. I've gone to see him probably twice and he has come back a lot. The difference, he has had a place to stay here up until recently (his family moved). I convinced my parents to let me fly down to see him, but he's currently making his third trip to see me this semester. And we're not 100% sure where he's staying :'(
At least I'm going to get to see him.

[books]

I do all the traveling, but I really don't mind. I love visiting him and his family. He doesn't have a passport, money to travel (the average monthly salary where he lives wouldn't even cover half of the ticket), and would most likely be denied a tourist vis if he tried to apply. So, that leaves me to do the traveling. Also, if he did come to visit me, he wouldn't have anyplace to stay as I live with a few roommates and hotels in NYC are CRAZY expensive.

[elizabethjp2010]

i do about 80% of it.....

[aggie]

I don't know whether doing the travelling is such a great thing. Afterall, you're going to a place where you don't have any memories concerning your SO (my bed doesn't hold his smell for the following few days, my armchair isn't the armchair where i remember him sitting and writing a song, my bathroom isn't the bathroom where we took baths together, and the park nearby isn't the park where we did lots of walking together) ... and you are the one who actually has to leave. Boy, does it not break your heart into a zillion pieces when you have to take that step out the door/through the security check, then having to press that 'disconnect' button on your phone once you're boarding, then as in my case you're actually stuck on a plane for what seems endless amounts of time, crying your eyes out and bursting into tears/cry spasms every time you recall his words.
And as it's usually super exciting to be welcome'd at the airport, I think I actually want him here, to see what my life looks like too.

Also, the money thing kind of sorted itself out , while I'm travelling which is usually for longer time (a month up to 3 ), then I live at his place, of course not covering any expenses. So I suppose it gets to be equal at some stage, its just the saving up that im better at than he is

[Jezah]

Leonsfangirl, I did it like 4 years ago, and only got a slap on the wrist probation but its not "spent" until 5 years. I worry if I tried to go over they would see I have a record and refuse me

[leonsfangirl]

I'd do some research, i know cautions and things don't count against you. You may need to apply for a visa.
https://www.ukba.homeoffice.gov.uk/ this site might be of some help.

[amartnotkmart]

my SO does more of the traveling, because when I'm at school I don't have the means to travel and he does.

[NaNi]

My SO visited me once so far and I've been to her country twice. I'm probably going back again next year.

[Rosebud]

Yep, he certainly does. I visited him once, for our very first visit a little over a year ago for three days. Since then he's visited me twice for about a week and in the beginning of January we're planning his third weeklong visit. With school starting after that we don't know if we'll be able to fit in another visit but over the summer I'm at last hoping I can make another trip over there. Admittedly I don't mind too much that he does the traveling as I get homesick extremely easily, hate Michigan weather, and like the comfort of being in my own home. Even so, I am really wanting to meet his family so my visiting him is something I really want to do. That being said, my mom is really reigning me in on this and at the moment as said he is welcome to come and visit anytime he wants for as long as he wishes, but it's a no-no when it comes to me flying over there. I don't really know why but it'll take some time before I get to make my second visit.

[Sunbeam]

Since he can't get a Visa, looks like I'll do all of it...
If I can ever get the money.

[HollzHeartsChris]

I'm not sure to be honest, but with university and work commitments I think my SO will have to be the one to come see me. I wouldn't be able to visit him myself for at least 2 years =/

[ashleecarol]

I definitely do more of the traveling. Especially this last year or so. He hasn't been here in about a year now. It mainly has to do with his school, because he stays in school all year around to stay on track for graduation. I have so many people who miss him here that after this trip over winter break, we are making sure he comes back here.