Hello again to everyone. Some of you may remember me, I was in a LDR on and off for the last 3 years, and then in November, I discovered via Facebook (the work of Satan himself, lol!) that he'd been cheating on me for months in ANOTHER LDR. A couple of weeks later I wrote him a goodbye message, and didn't hear from him for a while.
Well, he did start writing me again after a couple of weeks, and while he didn't want a "relationship" with me, he wanted an online FWB situation, and being the idiot that I am, I agreed. I thought that maybe it meant he missed me, that obviously she wasn't doing it for him and that eventually, he'd dump her and come back to me.
But this afternoon, I made a startling discovery.
I won't go into how I found out because it's complicated, but I discovered that he wasn't JUST cheating with one woman in another LDR, he actually had ANOTHER LDR going at the same time as me and her!!!
I guess I'm just stunned, though I don't know why. Probably because the other night it was his birthday, and we spent hours texting and then on Skype, and he was being WONDERFUL. Telling me that I'm beautiful, dropping little hints about wanting to see me again, maybe get back together...I truly thought maybe there was hope. So to discover what I have in the past hour is just another slap upside the head.
And so, I'm done with this idiot loser. No FWB, no friends, no ANYTHING. He doesn't deserve me, let them have him. I wish them all the best of luck with him, a basement-dwelling, unmotivated loser who lives online because he's too frightened to deal with "the real world".
My only advice to you guys? Listen to your gut. I kept having nagging suspicions in the back of my head, but I ignored them becuase he kept assuring me that he was too happy with me to risk losing everything, I was the only woman for him, and so on...if I'd listened to my instincts a while back, as painful as that would have been, I could have saved myself months of pain.
The saddest part is that I could tell he WAS happy, and I thought it was because of me...nope. Of course he was happy, he had a f***ing harem of adoring women, all of whom thought they were the only ones.
Thank god men like him are rare, and most of you will never have to go through what I am dealing with right now.
Good luck in all your relationships, be they LD or CD. Hugs to everyone.
Well, he did start writing me again after a couple of weeks, and while he didn't want a "relationship" with me, he wanted an online FWB situation, and being the idiot that I am, I agreed. I thought that maybe it meant he missed me, that obviously she wasn't doing it for him and that eventually, he'd dump her and come back to me.
But this afternoon, I made a startling discovery.
I won't go into how I found out because it's complicated, but I discovered that he wasn't JUST cheating with one woman in another LDR, he actually had ANOTHER LDR going at the same time as me and her!!!
I guess I'm just stunned, though I don't know why. Probably because the other night it was his birthday, and we spent hours texting and then on Skype, and he was being WONDERFUL. Telling me that I'm beautiful, dropping little hints about wanting to see me again, maybe get back together...I truly thought maybe there was hope. So to discover what I have in the past hour is just another slap upside the head.
And so, I'm done with this idiot loser. No FWB, no friends, no ANYTHING. He doesn't deserve me, let them have him. I wish them all the best of luck with him, a basement-dwelling, unmotivated loser who lives online because he's too frightened to deal with "the real world".
My only advice to you guys? Listen to your gut. I kept having nagging suspicions in the back of my head, but I ignored them becuase he kept assuring me that he was too happy with me to risk losing everything, I was the only woman for him, and so on...if I'd listened to my instincts a while back, as painful as that would have been, I could have saved myself months of pain.
The saddest part is that I could tell he WAS happy, and I thought it was because of me...nope. Of course he was happy, he had a f***ing harem of adoring women, all of whom thought they were the only ones.
Thank god men like him are rare, and most of you will never have to go through what I am dealing with right now.
Good luck in all your relationships, be they LD or CD. Hugs to everyone.
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