Terms if endearment

[kiara_silver]

So today out and about with family, when I got in the car my aunt goes "okay I want to ask you something" She asked me if I knew who this girl was on my SO's FB, because she wrote to him and called him babe. And she asked me if i was okay with her commenting on it. That she wanted to last night when he was on but wanted to ask me first. Lol my aunt is funny, and she has a loud personality. Plus my SO knows how she is so i was like sure do what you want. The comment wasn't anything bad plus its a friend of his and i didnt even think of it until she mentioned it and read it in the car to my grandma. Anyways the question is would that bug you? Someone else calling your SO babe or baby? What's innapropriate to you?

[Haley53]

I think it would depend. If it were someone who used the term regularly, I would probably shrug it off, even if it might give me that little initial twinge of asdfghjkl (yes, I'm aware it shouldn't).

[floridaellen]

If it was a new thing, I'd be kinda concerned. But if it was a long time friend and a normal thing for their friendship, then it wouldn't bother me.

[Rugger]

If it was in jest, I wouldn't be bothered. My SO has a great relationship with his former roommate and said roommate's girlfriend. They have pet names for each other and have an inside joke about making a porno. I have the same kind of relationship with the same roommate ( and his girlfriend, she and I are like the same person). It wouldn't bother me if she called him babe because I know she doesn't mean anything by it. BUT it would bother me if it was someone I didn't know, or someone he'd just met.

[Sora1101]

I'd be uncomfortable with anyone using stuff like that with my SO, to me it's something you call someone when you like them as more than friends, I mean why else use it? To me names like those are meant for relationships so if someone else was calling my SO baby or whatever it'd probably make me super jealous.

[Alemap]

I call my girlfriends babe all the time! My male friends are any variation of darling, sweetie, honey or love.
But I have terms of intimacy which are special between my beau and I, which I don't use elsewhere, so that might be what helps him not be jealous.

[anlgp]

It doesn't bother me

[yayagrl]

I call some of my longtime male friends babe on occasion, I also call them hun or hunny. Same with my female friends. I also sometimes call them all sugar tits . My SO calls some girls he talks to hun, but I attribute that to his being southern and also him being nice. He doesn't call anyone else babe but me.

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Oh would also like to add that I wouldn't be too bothered by babe, baby maybe, but babe.... not so much. Also my mom is from New York and she calls just about everyone baby (my uncle included and he even says it as well), but that is her little New York thing and isn't meant like the relationship one. Tone is more like saying dude for them

[Brieasaurus]

Personally, I'd have an issue with it. Especially if it was a new friend and that friend was a female haha. My SO will joke around with his two best friends and they'll call eachother baby and babe on facebook sometimes to be funny or to mock other people and in that case I think it's perfectly fine.

[squeeker]

Well my boyfriend doesn't really have any female friends he talks to regularly, though there are girls who he talks to occasionally, typically old friends, I think I would feel a little jealous if a girl called him babe or baby or anything else cutesy like that but I also know my boyfriend and would assume they were saying it in a jokey-friendly way.. it would probably depend on what else was said in the message, and then I'd probably mention it to him, like ask who the girl is if I don't know her, or if I do.. I'd probably end up saying something about it.. just because I always get curious about people in his life.. not really that jealous or anything, just curious and interested by these things.

[13000km]

If it was a new thing I might be concerned. It also depends whether it's in this person's culture/personality to address your SO this way. My boyfriend has an online friend that writes "hugs" all the time and it didn't bother me, until I moved here and she started saying "kiss" instead. I was like o.O I'm not sure if I'd be comfortable with girls coming up and kissing him, especially since it's not in either of their cultures to do so.

[squirrelz15]

It would probably depends on the person, some people call everyone honey, so then it probably wouldn't. Babe or baby might give me a little more concern, but it's probably largely depend on who and the situation

[Zapookie]

I think it would bother me if it was a female friend calling him babe. I'm sure it would bother him too if some guy called me babe as well.... for us its kind of a personal thing, and you usually don't call someone else babe unless you're fond of them. I call my female friends babe but that's OK I guess because they're my girlies lol.

[Alemap]

The American habit of using baby as a romantic diminutive seems odd to me (when I call my girlfriends babe, it's in the 80s hot-girl way); it took me a while to get used to my beau doing it.
I think that's just a cultural thing, though.

[LilyChiba]

Even if it is something the person used all the time with anyone and everyone, I would still be irked. My SO doesn't like it when people use them with me, in fact he gets protective. I would be the same if I knew.