This is probably the biggest challenge that my SO and I face in our relationship whenever we are far apart.
It sort of reminds me of the old cliche, "Out-of-site; out-of-mind." I am not saying that we do not think about one another when we are far apart, but rather it is harder to remember what the person is REALLY like. Whenever we are together in person during our visits, everything is wonderful, but when we go back to the distance, this always seems to pop up after a bit of time. The past few months, we have had several big fights crop up, and after talking them out, we realized that the cause was that we felt distant from one another.
For example, whenever one of us is busy and we cannot talk on the phone as much, we will feel as though we are missing that connection that we usually have. Sometimes, we will fall into repetition and things will just get a little dull. My SO has also been known to distance himself from me as a way with coping with the distance...but that only makes the problem worse!
A few months ago, one of the main causes of a fight was that my boyfriend told me that he sometimes had doubts about our relationship and that he felt guilty because of that. However, he only had thoughts like that when we were from a distance, and he said that when he would talk to me or see me in person, all of those thoughts would fade and he would remember why he fell in love with me in the first place. I had an extremely hard time accepting this because it felt like a slap in the face, but when I was honest with myself, I realized that I had felt the same way as well once or twice. However, soon after I felt this way, something my SO would say would always make me remember what i was fighting for, and all of my doubts would disappear.
Now, whenever one of us begins to feel distant, we tell one another and we discuss the steps that we can take to improve our relationship and get rid of that feeling. Now, we try to get on webcam more and have consistent date nights. We are also planning on reading Artemis Fowl together
We will not give up without a fight! Our relationship has already improved a lot just by communicating better about this 
My SO flew here this past Thursday, and I dropped him back off at the airport a few hours ago [hence the reason I have not been on here that much recently
]. Right now we are peachy, and we had the most amazing visit--like usual, of course! But back to the point..... During the trip, he said something about this that made me want to post a thread about this to see if anyone else has had this problem.
Does anyone else find that they become distant when they are long distance? What do you do to when you feel this way? Has it had a negative impact on your relationship? What do you do to solve the problem?
It sort of reminds me of the old cliche, "Out-of-site; out-of-mind." I am not saying that we do not think about one another when we are far apart, but rather it is harder to remember what the person is REALLY like. Whenever we are together in person during our visits, everything is wonderful, but when we go back to the distance, this always seems to pop up after a bit of time. The past few months, we have had several big fights crop up, and after talking them out, we realized that the cause was that we felt distant from one another.
For example, whenever one of us is busy and we cannot talk on the phone as much, we will feel as though we are missing that connection that we usually have. Sometimes, we will fall into repetition and things will just get a little dull. My SO has also been known to distance himself from me as a way with coping with the distance...but that only makes the problem worse!
A few months ago, one of the main causes of a fight was that my boyfriend told me that he sometimes had doubts about our relationship and that he felt guilty because of that. However, he only had thoughts like that when we were from a distance, and he said that when he would talk to me or see me in person, all of those thoughts would fade and he would remember why he fell in love with me in the first place. I had an extremely hard time accepting this because it felt like a slap in the face, but when I was honest with myself, I realized that I had felt the same way as well once or twice. However, soon after I felt this way, something my SO would say would always make me remember what i was fighting for, and all of my doubts would disappear.
Now, whenever one of us begins to feel distant, we tell one another and we discuss the steps that we can take to improve our relationship and get rid of that feeling. Now, we try to get on webcam more and have consistent date nights. We are also planning on reading Artemis Fowl together
We will not give up without a fight! Our relationship has already improved a lot just by communicating better about this My SO flew here this past Thursday, and I dropped him back off at the airport a few hours ago [hence the reason I have not been on here that much recently
]. Right now we are peachy, and we had the most amazing visit--like usual, of course! But back to the point..... During the trip, he said something about this that made me want to post a thread about this to see if anyone else has had this problem. Does anyone else find that they become distant when they are long distance? What do you do to when you feel this way? Has it had a negative impact on your relationship? What do you do to solve the problem?
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