Background: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and LDR for 1 year and 8 months. After being 6 hours apart, he moved closer and we are now 2.5 hours apart. He had always told me that he'd never been in any real relationships ( more than a month) and his record for not having sex was 3 years.
We were talking the other day about how we met and how in the beginning of the school year ( our senior year) I had the attitude of "I don't want to start anything because I don't want to do Long Distance again" We've had this conversation a couple of times but this time it took a turn that it had never before. He said "I was like that two, I was dating someone else and we broke it off before coming back to school because I didn't want to do long distance
Whoa, pump the breaks here. I've never ever ever heard this before. We've had this exact same conversation before and this has never come up. Now I don't care what he's done in the past but I hate being blindsided by shit like this. It's not the first time it's happened. Another time, I found out he had dated his best friend's sister (who he is still very close to). We hung out with this girl all the time and I'm close with her as well. Over the summer, I also found out through mutual friends he had a thing with another close friend.
I've told him everything about my prior dating record. He knows that I dated my abusive ex for a year, dated another kid for about a month, and I was casually dating someone when I met him. He knows everything . I thought I knew everything too, apparently not. I know it's stupid but I would rather him come clean about everything than find out randomly and feel like he's hiding it. By feeling like he's hiding it, I feel betrayed because it's something to hide.
Would you rather know everything about your partner or is ignorance is bliss?
We were talking the other day about how we met and how in the beginning of the school year ( our senior year) I had the attitude of "I don't want to start anything because I don't want to do Long Distance again" We've had this conversation a couple of times but this time it took a turn that it had never before. He said "I was like that two, I was dating someone else and we broke it off before coming back to school because I didn't want to do long distance
Whoa, pump the breaks here. I've never ever ever heard this before. We've had this exact same conversation before and this has never come up. Now I don't care what he's done in the past but I hate being blindsided by shit like this. It's not the first time it's happened. Another time, I found out he had dated his best friend's sister (who he is still very close to). We hung out with this girl all the time and I'm close with her as well. Over the summer, I also found out through mutual friends he had a thing with another close friend.
I've told him everything about my prior dating record. He knows that I dated my abusive ex for a year, dated another kid for about a month, and I was casually dating someone when I met him. He knows everything . I thought I knew everything too, apparently not. I know it's stupid but I would rather him come clean about everything than find out randomly and feel like he's hiding it. By feeling like he's hiding it, I feel betrayed because it's something to hide.
Would you rather know everything about your partner or is ignorance is bliss?
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