LDR Students!!!

[carolynred]

I know what y'all mean! Of course I would rather want to talk to my SO than do homework, BUT I convince myself that if I get a lot of it done then I'll have more time to talk to him at the end of the day. Its kinda like a little motivation I guess. xD Plus if I don't keep a GPA above 3.6 I won't be able to get into the branch of pharmacy school back home so I can close the distance with my SO. Just keep a goal in mind and reward yourself for making it. Like for example, my goal today is to finish my English paper. If I do, I get a cookie! Just little stuff like that can go a long way. Good luck!

[dukes2011]

It's really tough since I'm the only one in our group of friends who is pursuing grad school, therefore nobody else is in a LDR. Sometimes I get in these modes where I'm angry that grad school has forced me and Dan to put our lives together on hold, but he always reminds me that I'm in school to better myself and be happier later down the road. Another motivation is that I have to keep a certain GPA to stay in my program.

Like carolynred, I give myself little rewards like a cookie or going on the computer for a bit. I set a cell phone alarm to transition back to working rather than just going by the clock. Also, if I go somewhere outside my room it helps me focus better. You can do it even though it's hard. Good luck and hang in there!

[AJD+JLH]

I set a schedule to organize my study time and stick to it religiously. If it says "study for exam from 1-4you pm" that's exactly what I do. Procrastinating makes me feel anxious and guilty! With the job market as awful as it is, I need perfect grades to even have a shot at a decent job. Also, my SO works all day and never calls before 8 pm but usually I don't talk to him until 11. We are living such different lives right now and are on different schedules, so until I feel the ring on my finger ir hear his voice, I don't focus on him too terribly much. Bc that just makes it harder!

[Sora1101]

Since my SO was finishing up college while I'm still going to school we made a deal, if one of us doesn't do our work or keep our grades up the other will let their grades drop as well. How does that motivate me? Well for one college is expensive I don't want him wasting money, two I could never let my SO intentionally harm his education for me, and three if neither of us finishes school closing the distance would never happen. So not doing well in school means being away from him longer which means I need to keep my stuff together if I ever want a future with him. Works like a charm :P

[Bethypoo]

Graduation is soon. That is my motivation. The sooner I graduate the sooner I take the next step in my life!

[elizabethjp2010]

the faster i graduate the faster we can start our real life.

[Tooki]

Schoolwork keeps me distracted from missing her. Also given our time differences, I use it as motivation to finish the work during the day so I can talk to her at night without any worries.

And then there is stuff in the future such as postgrad study somewhere closer to her etc.

[fitfilipina]

I totally know how you feel! Most of the time I use it to stay busy, but if I'm feeling shitty and missing him terribly, I have zero motivation to do it. So I usually just sleepit off and wake up feeling good enough to finish up.

[~whendarknessfalls]

It's definitely hard to focus sometimes, but I just force myself to keep it up because I know that it's important to work hard in school. My SO and I will spend time together when I am all done for the night, so that's pretty much my motivation.

[meganpillow]

I agree with a majority of people on this forum, I make it a motivation.

Sometimes I am doing homework and I just think about him and just get tempted to give him a call or text him, but I just repeat to myself the reason why I am here. I am here because I want to create one hell of a career for myself that can take me wherever I need to go, including where my significant other is.

I just leave my phone at home and go to the library on campus and just go hard and often. That way I don't have to cram (which never really works) and then I can study in small incriminates and be able to talk to my SO for my reward!

[goalie_girl34]

You just gotta do it. School work helps to keep me busy when I'm missing him and I know a good education is the basis of a job that will support our life together so thats good motivation.

My first day of classes this semester I called him and told him I wish he was here with me so we could take some classes, eat together in the cafeteria and make out in the quad, lol.

[loveknowsnodistance27]

I totally understand the lack of motivation. I am now in my fourth semester in college. I'd say that for the first 3 semesters, I was extremely unmotivated and quite simply distracted by my SO and maintaining our relationship. It was a tough adjustment for me, and the major I was in was extremely difficult and emotionally trying on me. I wound up transferring to another college this semester and changing majors. I am so much more motivated now and I am loving every minute of it. I've now began focusing a lot more on my work and studies, and it shows! My grades are so much better, and even though it's only week 3, I feel like I could possibly pull a 4.0 GPA. Now that I've realized that I could close the distance in a year and a half, I am so extremely motivated to do well and finish my degree as quickly as I can! I'm going to be going for my associate's degree and I am expected to graduate in May of 2013. Next school year, I will submit my application to Anthony's school, which I am looking to transfer to after graduation so I can complete my certificate in ultrasound. For me, that is the motivation whenever I feel like getting lazy; I tell myself I need to do well so I can get accepted to Anthony's school and then we'll close the distance!

[AEAS]

I'm just one of those people who enjoy homework.... But even I still need some motivation, which is getting money for my grades. Money= More to do when my SO is here/ Cosplay funds/ Saving up to buy a ticket to see my SO when i'm finally allowed to go.

School just generally sucks, but it's something you got to do, so might as well do well in it.

[dukes2011]

Hey everyone! I currently have no motivation to do schoolwork. It's time like this where I wonder if I should have taken a year off instead of going to grad school. I've been in school so long (this is my 10th semester after graduating high school) and I'm soooo sick of it taking over my life. Sorry for venting but knew you guys would understand :-)

[rixue]

I keep myself motivated to do homework and study for a few different reasons. I won't be graduating till December of 2013 which is a long long way away. I changed my major...3 times so I am behind on my normal graduation date (was supposed to graduate spring 2012, ahhh how I wish that were true)! I finally found a major that will hopefully get me an amazing job that I love! I know that if I do well in my classes I know I will graduate at that time (and will finally be able to close the distance with my SO!).

Another thing that also helps is that we are on different schedules...he works from 6pm-6am and sleeps till around 4pm. The days he works I try to get a lot of my studying done since I can't talk to him much while he is working. The days he has off I try and get all the necessary homework for the next day done before he wakes up so I can spend the rest of my night with him when he is up