Hello, new here and seeking some advice ?
I hope this is the right area. If it's not, I am sorry. I just signed up by the referral of a friend.
Anyways, here is my dilemma.
I met this girl online through a mutual personal friend we both shared like three years ago. We hit it off great and a few months later we started dating. It was great and I found myself falling in love with her. We said we loved each other Easter day all that time ago and it was just brilliant. I was getting ready to move to NY so I could attend Juilliard for my music and she was going to come with me. I found us a nice cheap studio apartment in Manhattan, I found us jobs that were close by, we were all ready, and despite us not yet meeting, we weren't worried at all. It was seriously perfect haha.
And then, I found out she had cheated on me three times...
I forgave her and I worked through it. I thought, perhaps it is my fault because we have yet to meet?
and then she cheated on me again and that's when I gave up.
She started dating the guy she cheated on me on and that was it, they broke up a few weeks after.
Now, here we are about two years in the future. I'm living in NY, doing music and art and attending school, planning to move to California soon for a job offer doing comic books and designing action figures. (not that that's really important haha)
we have started talking again and over the course of the last few months, I'm realizing I haven't gotten over her. I haven't been with anyone since her haha. She confesses to still having feelings for me and I still have them for her.
The problem is, although a lot of time has passed and we could be better this time, I'm scared. I think I would like to give this another try, I still have feelings for a reason, yes? I'm just... I don't know what I would do if things went wrong between us again. Like, I'm having a hard time grasping trusting her...
I wouldn't be one of those guys who are all where are you? what are you doing? who are you with, etc. but in the back of my mind, I just cannot get over the fact that she cheated on me.
If that makes sense?
So, I come seeking advice on this situation. Any given is greatly appreciated, also, anyone who looks at this is greatly appreciated. Thank you all for your time.
We have both just recently (last week-ish) turned 21.
Anyways, here is my dilemma.
I met this girl online through a mutual personal friend we both shared like three years ago. We hit it off great and a few months later we started dating. It was great and I found myself falling in love with her. We said we loved each other Easter day all that time ago and it was just brilliant. I was getting ready to move to NY so I could attend Juilliard for my music and she was going to come with me. I found us a nice cheap studio apartment in Manhattan, I found us jobs that were close by, we were all ready, and despite us not yet meeting, we weren't worried at all. It was seriously perfect haha.
And then, I found out she had cheated on me three times...
I forgave her and I worked through it. I thought, perhaps it is my fault because we have yet to meet?
and then she cheated on me again and that's when I gave up.
She started dating the guy she cheated on me on and that was it, they broke up a few weeks after.
Now, here we are about two years in the future. I'm living in NY, doing music and art and attending school, planning to move to California soon for a job offer doing comic books and designing action figures. (not that that's really important haha)
we have started talking again and over the course of the last few months, I'm realizing I haven't gotten over her. I haven't been with anyone since her haha. She confesses to still having feelings for me and I still have them for her.
The problem is, although a lot of time has passed and we could be better this time, I'm scared. I think I would like to give this another try, I still have feelings for a reason, yes? I'm just... I don't know what I would do if things went wrong between us again. Like, I'm having a hard time grasping trusting her...
I wouldn't be one of those guys who are all where are you? what are you doing? who are you with, etc. but in the back of my mind, I just cannot get over the fact that she cheated on me.
If that makes sense?
So, I come seeking advice on this situation. Any given is greatly appreciated, also, anyone who looks at this is greatly appreciated. Thank you all for your time.
We have both just recently (last week-ish) turned 21.
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